5. They Use Aggression And Violence To Intimidate You.
One common technique every narcissist use is aggression and violence. It can either be overt physical violence or covert passive-aggressive techniques to exercise their control.
When a narcissist notices that all his mind games are failing, they will actively start intimidating you with threats of physical harm. They will at times use means like hitting, pulling, grabbing, pushing, slapping, kicking, and even stabbing, to establish their point.
6. They Use Triangulation.
Triangulation is possible when the narcissist introduces a third party into the scenario.
This third party will always work in accordance with the narcissist and join hands to smear campaign you. When a narcissist’s every single technique fails to control you, he/she will introduce this last means to control how others view you. They will talk dirty about you, spread rumors and ultimately end up spoiling your image before everyone else – especially among your closest social circle.
7. They Minimalize Your Pain And Distress.
One obvious ritual in every healthy relationship is to express and exchange each other’s emotions.
How will it be if your partner constantly undermines the emotions you are experiencing?
Suppose you have had a disastrous day at work. You came back home, wishing to unburden all your frustrations as you share your concerns with your partner. But once you start telling him/her about it, they simply terminate the conversation saying “It will be all fine. Just ignore.” making you feel unattended and neglected.
Well, the problem is that there is no definite problem here. It simply is a trivial behavior on the part of your partner which leaves you disheartened.
A fulfilling relationship is never characterized by superficiality, lack of communication and warmth.
When days, weeks, or months pass by with you having to tolerate such abusive and toxic behavior from your partner, from whom you expected love, warmth, and understanding, your life feels like a living hell.
The more you are aware of these commonly used manipulative techniques of a narcissist, the more empowered you are. It will help you in identifying and dealing with these people who are only meant to destroy you.
Remember what Ramani Durvasula said,
“Relationships with narcissists are held in place by the hope of a ‘someday better,’ with little evidence to support it will ever arrive.“