Now, I’m not saying this to make you feel bad about what’s happening at home and I certainly don’t blame you.
It’s just that you have a choice.
If you’re seeing these signs your husband doesn’t love you, you might feel hopeless and terrified. However, you can create positive changes that transform your relationship and elevate it to a point where you can inspire your husband to fall back in love with you.
If he loved you once, he can love you again. But it’s not easy because if he’s gotten to the point where he’s fallen out of love with you, you’re going to have to approach this from all angles.
Here’s how to start bringing the love back into your marriage.
1. Go out of your way to show your husband more respect.
One of the most basic and common reasons that husbands fall out of love is that they stop feeling like their women respect them.
Respect for a man is relationship OXYGEN.
If you have been disrespecting him—even unintentionally— by mothering him, trying to make all of the decisions, emasculating him, criticizing his ideas or generally not treating him as though his input is valuable, stop.
Often we treat the cashier at Home Depot with more respect than the man we sleep next to every night. This has to stop right now.
2. Stop going on the defensive.
When we’re with someone for a long time, something little they say can ignite a powder keg of pent-up pain and resentment.
Starting right now, resolve to own your part and stop defending yourself from every perceived slight. Yes, even when he means it.
This is your lover. It’s time to put down your shield and suit of armor. Center yourself and choose to let more remarks slide without judgment. If he truly hurts your feelings, take the direct route and say, “that hurt my feelings” and wait for his response. We often assume the other person doesn’t care when they shut down because they are actually responding to the anger that they hear coming from us when we go on the defense. Defense is the first act of war.
When your marriage is already on the rocks, you won’t do either of you any favors by arguing more often. Practice letting more things go.
3. Make yourself happy.
You can’t have a happy relationship with anyone when you are miserable. It’s the old idea that you have to put on your own oxygen mask first before helping another person if the plane is crashing.
And, your ordinary life WILL CRASH if you don’t eventually nurture your own happiness. One of the best ways to do this is to start having fun, first with yourself and then with your husband.
The time and effort you put into making yourself happy pay off in dividends when it comes to your relationship, because the better you feel, the happier you’ll be. And the happier you are, the happier your marriage will become.
If your marriage shows signs your husband doesn’t love you, then you need to see this video presentation by Brad Browning.
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