If you’re the one asking him out most of the time or takes him a long, long time to reach out and to suggest to catch up.
Sure, he may be super busy at work or could be one of the key signs that he’s just not that into you, especially if the following signs I’m about to mention are present too.
Some men are slow movers. The shy ones can be, though they shouldn’t last more than six to eight weeks.
After that, momentum should start to build. If the momentum is not building, then it’s more than OK to want more and there’s a good chance, it’s time to say, “Adios!”
2. Lack of consistent communication.
Calling and texting are apparently activities the man you’re dating does not enjoy, at least, when we’re talking about calling or texting you.
I’m not saying you should keep score if he texts or calls first, what I am saying is if you tend to be the one to be waiting for hours or days until he finds the time to bother to call or text you back, then things are pretty clear, aren’t they?
You need to stop initiating.
Focus on your life without him in it and see if he starts to take the lead. If not, then you have your answer. Move On.
3. When a guy likes you, he’ll want to touch you and often.
This doesn’t necessarily mean “touching” in a sexual foreplay sense.
A guy who likes you will reach out to hold your hand, hug you and be close to you in any way possible.
Related: Why Women Don’t Want a “Nice Guy”?
A man who’s just not that into you won’t do this, particularly not in public.
Yes, some men are not overly touchy-feely, that’s OK if it’s OK for you though he will show you other ways of devotion and commitment. If not, it’s a sign you should move on.
4. Convenient for him sexy time.
He does want to have sex with you… when it suits him.
When a guy doesn’t like you as much as you like him, he’ll hit you up for play normally during times when he’s bored, not during primetime Friday or Saturday night.
You’re more of that late-night afterthought or a weekend hangover booty call. And often, the sex feels more like a sports activity rather than a sensual, yummy kind of connection.
All women know when a guy is being attentive and adoring in bed or just through the motions.
A man who’s just not that into you will be going through the motions.
And sure, not all men are great lovers and they can get nervous though the connection should deepen, not remain on the sports field with one goal in mind, his pleasure.
5. He’s hiding you or avoids alone time with you.
These are two extremes that can mean the same thing— that he’s probably just not that into you.
If he doesn’t try to spend solo time with you and prefers to invite you to join him with his friends, then he could be avoiding getting closer.
Sure, you may have some alone time at the end of the night— though most of the time— you feel like a buddy and not a girlfriend.
You spend time hidden or in hiding normally at his place or yours and you don’t meet his friends, you’re not going out to restaurants, you’re under wraps.
These are not the signs a guy likes you. So, you should move on.
He could “like” you but he’s not hooked, line and sinker into you.
A man who’s becoming more and more invested, naturally, he wants you to meet his friends and spend some quality time alone with you going on dates at home, day trips and so on. He’s holistically interested in you.
Those were the five signs a guy doesn’t like you as much as you had hoped.
I know it can feel kind of rotten, like rejection— though try not to see it that way.
This is an opportunity for you to say no to mediocre dating and get clear about what wholehearted interest actually feels like when a man is invested in you.
To help you to attract the man you deeply want and to put an end to painful dating, I have a free presentation that will support you to meet your perfect match.
It’s called the #1 secret to getting the love you want. You’ll love it.
I know you are a smart, gorgeous woman, so be smart with your heart and only date men who want you too.
Yes, sometimes it takes a number of weeks to work it out, though it really shouldn’t take longer than that.
I want you to find the courage and self-honor to break free from going-nowhere dating so that you’re available for someone truly ready for a woman just like you.
If you want to eat the whole ice cream, then you have to walk away and move on from those time-wasters, mend that ego and get out there and attract that special man for you.
This is what I want for you.
Thank you for being here with me. Choose to love a little more every day in some way and see you again very soon.
Written by: Nadine Piat
Originally appeared on: AttractTheOne