More often than not, children brought up by controlling parents grow up to be abusive adults. They either engage in adult relationships where they continue to carry forward the techniques of manipulation from their parents and apply them on their partners or later on adopt the same ideologies of parenting for their children.
They fail to learn to set personal boundaries in their adulthood. This is because ever since their childhood, they did not have any personal boundaries. They were treated as an extension of their parents where their boundaries were fused to that of their parents. This gets carried in the future and they lack a proper sense of boundary leading to them being more susceptible to emotional and psychological abuse.
We grow up in a belief system according to which children should always make their parents proud and happy (instead of making themselves proud and happy) – and that’s, unfortunately, the belief system in most cultures. ―
- Baumrind, D. (1967). Childcare practices anteceding three patterns of preschool behavior. Genetic Psychology Monographs, 75(1), 43-88.
- Santrock, J.W. (2007). A topical approach to life-span development, third Ed.New York: McGraw-Hill.
- See also: Alegre, 2011; Baumrind, 1971; Grolnick & Pomerantz, 2009; Leman, 2005
- See also: Barnow, Lucht, & Freyberger, 2005; Patock-Peckham & Morgan-Lopez,
- See also: Milevsky et al., 2007; 2008; Patock-Peckham & Morgan-Lopez, 2009
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