When both partners are open to learning about their differences, their differences become fertile ground for the exciting process of personal and spiritual growth and healing.
Giving Up Your Integrity Will Destroy The Relationship
We cannot make another person be open to learning – we don’t have that control over others. If you are in a relationship where your partner refuses to learn and grow from the differences, then you need to be honest with yourself regarding how much of yourself you can give up and still maintain a sense of integrity. You cannot afford to compromise your personal integrity. You can bend and accommodate as long as you do not feel as if you are losing yourself. Once you feel that you are losing yourself to preserve the relationship, you will likely find yourself so resentful of the other person that the relationship begins to fall apart anyway, as a result of giving yourself up. You are not preserving it by accommodating – you are destroying it while losing yourself.
The key is to be willing to come up against conflict and rejection and even lose the other person rather than continue to accommodate when going along with what your partner wants means a loss of your personal integrity. On the emotional and spiritual level, you can afford to lose your partner, but you cannot afford to lose yourself. As you learn and practice the Inner Bonding process, you will discover the strength you need to be willing to risk losing your partner, rather than continue to lose yourself.
Written by Margaret Paul, PhD
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