10 Interesting Facts That Will Help You Understand Narcissists Better

Unusual Facts Help Understand Narcissists Better

7. Narcissists cross every boundary you have.

They haven’t met a boundary they haven’t crossed, and if you don’t put a stop to it when it begins, they’ll keep crossing until they’ve crossed every boundary you’ve got. 

Related: The Narcissistic Dictionary: Terms That Describe Narcissistic Behaviors

8. If you must confront a narcissist – use emphatic validation.

If you must confront a narcissist, do it carefully – they respond best to “empathic validation,” Cosmo says. So you should always “affirm the relationship first before you share anything that doesn’t feel right,” said a psychologist interviewed by the mag. “For example, if it’s someone you’re dating, say to them: ‘I care about you a lot, so when you don’t listen to what I’m saying, I feel like I’m nothing in your eyes,’ instead of ‘Why don’t you ever listen to me?’

9. Narcissists can be motivated by meaningful consequences for their behavior.

The only thing that might motivate a narcissist to change is having meaningful consequences for their bad behavior. For example, a healthy narcissist might avoid cheating on a spouse in order to preserve the relationship, because “if the consequences are high enough, they might start to reevaluate their actions.” 

Related: 24 Terms Of Narcissistic Abuse That You Should Know About

10. Narcissists are like emotional toddlers.

No matter how intelligent and together a narcissist is in other ways, they are emotional toddlers. Cosmo’s experts both noted that the best way to deal with a narcissist who is raging is to consider them like you would a two-year-old who is throwing a tantrum, and that most of that is just their way of “putting on a show.”

Both agreed that as long as you’re not in physical danger, you have to pick your battles and decide what you will and will not tolerate, and then make your choices accordingly. 

As I said, I find all of this stuff very insightful and totally on-target. What do you think? 

Written By Angie Atkinson
Originally appeared on QueenBeeing.com

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A narcissist will always be able to manipulate you and trick you as long as they can keep you in the dark about it. The moment you understand narcissists, they will lose that power over you, and you will be immune to their manipulative games.

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Angie Atkinson

Certified Life Coach, Author, Survivor. Discover, Understand and Overcome Narcissistic Abuse with Certified Life Coach, author and survivor Angie Atkinson, a recognized expert in narcissism in relationships and narcissistic personality disorder. As creator of the DUO Method of Healing, it's her mission to to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires - into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves. As you can see when you visit the freebies page at QueenBeeing.com, Atkinson's online daily magazine, she's all about paying it forward.View Author posts