Shadow Self: 3 Ways To Embrace Your Inner Darkness

Shadow Self: 3 Ways To Embrace Your Inner Darkness

13 Types of Shadow Selves

All of us carry demons inside. Sometimes we catch fleeting glimpses of them, sometimes we witness them in full frontal chaos, but for the most part, we ignore and bury their existence either out of fear, guilt, or pure shame. Discovering our demons is a vital part of inner work.

Our inner demons come in many different shapes and varieties. While some are more ferocious than others, others don’t really seem to be all that monstrous at all – until we reap the devilish consequences later on in our lives.

Below I have categorized and ‘cataloged’ 13 different Shadows you might meet on your path. Some overlap with each other and many are interconnected, meaning that it’s not uncommon to possess more than a number of different Shadows:

1. The Egotistical Monster

Root cause: primal fear of “not being good enough”; not existing, being nobody

This person displays the following characteristics: arrogance, egocentricity, pompousness, inconsiderateness, self-indulgence, narcissism, excessive pride.

2. The Neurotic Monster

Root cause: fear of life, others, and self; desire to regain control

This person displays the following characteristics: paranoia, obsessiveness, suspiciousness, finicky, demanding, masochistic, compulsive behavior.

3. The Untrustworthy Monster

Root cause: fear of life in general

This person displays the following characteristics: secretive, impulsive, frivolous, irresponsible, deceitful, unreliable.

4. The Emotionally Unstable Monster

Root cause: basic feeling of being “unlovable” and powerless; reaction to unresolved emotional pain

This person displays the following characteristics: moody, melodramatic, manipulative, weepy, overemotional, impulsive, changeable.

5. The Controlling Monster

Root cause: basic mistrust of life, feelings of abandonment and “not being good enough”

This person displays the following characteristics: suspicious, jealous, possessive, bossy, obsessive.

6. The Cynical Monster

Root cause: protection against feeling too vulnerable

This person displays the following characteristics: negative, overcritical, patronizing, resentful, cantankerous.

7. The Wrathful Monster

Root cause: fear of others, mistrust of life, closed heart

This person displays the following characteristics: ruthless, vengeful, bitchy, quick-tempered, quarrelsome.

8. The Rigid Monster

Root cause: fear and rejection of the unknown, chaos, and ego death

This person displays the following characteristics: uptight, intolerant, obstinate, uncompromising, inflexible, narrow-minded.

9. The Glib Monster

Root cause: distrust of life, others, and self

This person displays the following characteristics: superficial, cunning, inconsistent, sly, crafty.

10. The Nonchalant Monster

Root cause: buried grief, fear, and shame (numbness is a defense)

This person displays the following characteristics: emotionally detached, distant, indifferent, uncaring, unexcited.

11. The Perverted Monster

Root cause: repressed sexual energy, possible unresolved childhood wounds

This person displays the following characteristics: sadistic, lustful, depraved, corrupt.

12. The Cowardly Monster

Root cause: fear, disbelief in self

This person displays the following characteristics: weak-willed, timid, fearful.

13. The Naive Monster

Root cause: refusal to grow up, lack of individuated ego

This person displays the following characteristics: puerile, petty, immature, illogical, simpleminded, vacuous.

How many of these inner Monsters can you relate to? Keep in mind that this list only explores the dark side of the shadow, not the light side (where the positive repressed qualities of our nature are buried).

2 thoughts on “Shadow Self: 3 Ways To Embrace Your Inner Darkness”

  1. Avatar of terrydpickron

    …to deny any part of the ''self'' is to deny the whole self…this is the problem with people…denial of the ..truth…if a thing exists so too will it's opposite both must be considered…''Dirt under the ''rug'' is still dirt''…

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