What it Takes to See a Man’s Feelings

If you do not have the strength to be unafraid of our fears, our insecurities or the strength to bear witness to our pain and grief we will hide them. When you ask us what we are feeling when you ask for us to show our emotions you are asking us to lose control. You are asking us to forgo decades of control. You are asking us to no longer active but to release.

We cannot do that unless we know you have the strength to bring us back.

If you want us to open up it cannot be done by asking us to share, it will not happen that way. We have far too many years of control under our belt to simply let go in that way, we simply can’t.

If you want us to open up then you will need to prove to us that you are the stronger.

Join us in our actions as we mindlessly chop 1000 logs for firewood we don’t need, ask us how we plan to solve our problems.

Understand that our solutions are just words, they are not actions but the intent to solve the problem of our feelings. Our feelings are hidden, even from ourselves, but we know deep down that we have the need to act, to do and to plan.

If you help us in our actions and planning and guide us, steer us away from unwise decisions, we will see that you have the strength to listen.

As we talk through our plans and actions slowly will our feelings become clear, even to ourselves, and if you are by our side you will see them too.

A minstrel was a medieval European bard who performed songs whose lyrics told stories of distant places or of existing or imaginary historical events. Although minstrels created their own tales, often they would memorize and embellish the works of others. The Modern Minstrel observes the world around him and shares it with us as a lyrical story. This series was inspired by Luke Davis, whose eye for story and ear for lyrical prose are featured here.


Written by The Naive Idealist
Originally appeared in The Good Men Project

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What it Takes to See a Mans Feelings
What it Takes to See a Man’s Feelings

What it Takes to See a Mans Feelings
What it Takes to See a Man’s Feelings

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