Instead of quitting, it’s wiser to see a counselor. This should not be seen as a positive effort and not as acceptance of failure.
5. Pledge to grow together.
It’s extremely important to identify the points on which a couple has differences of opinion. Before you get married, make a point to reach an agreement on each of them.
Marriage needs your constant hard work as you will be building your life and future together. There will be many things you will be doing differently post marriage. Prepare yourselves for them. Enroll together into classes on parenting, spirituality and religion, household spending, and other complex topics before mishandling of issues can create rifts in your marriage.
When you both have the same information, you can decide how to resolve complex issues before they affect you emotionally.
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6. See a marriage counselor whenever there is a problem.
Seeing a counselor doesn’t mean your marriage is already in trouble. It’s just a way to open the knots that you cannot find a way to open on your own.
Just consider it similar to signing up for a guitar or any hobby class. If you can’t bring yourself to meet a counselor, strengthen your communication, co-parenting or problem-solving techniques.
7. Spend at least one weekly off-day together.
Spending time together is the key to a successful relationship. Let that day begin with cuddling together in bed, just cuddling and nothing else. No kids, no other things and door locked. Actually, one person in the relationship needs it and the other one loves it much more than they think will.
8. Share hobbies.
It’s not possible to share the same hobbies but it’s important that you do most of them. This is because most of us like to spend our free time in the pursuit of what we like. When you share the same hobbies you get to spend more together enjoyably.
If you can’t follow the same hobbies then make some adjustments. Even if you don’t do it you can develop interest and be with your spouse.
9. Shower or bathe together as often as possible.
It’s fun, it’s romantic and it’s intensely intimate. Scrubbing and cleaning each other or just enjoying the water pouring on your naked bodies, is a special experience that you only share with each other.
It’s a great way to unwind together, to plan things and connect in an exceptional way and it also means more time together.
10. Never stop having sex.
Sex is an important part of marriage. It’s a need and married couples depend on each other to meet this need. Make sure to have sex at least once a week even if you don’t feel like doing it.
If you have reached the end of seven days without sex, make it happen before its midnight. Make love-making a regular habit because even if you are best of friends, chemistry and sexual attraction is the reason your relationship reached this level.
11. Remember, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.
When familiarity sets in, people tend to wander in search of attraction and excitement. Little do they understand the person they are attracted to have their own flaws. And when the dust settles it becomes all too clear.
It’s so much better to value the one we have in our lives. Work together, to remind yourselves why you fell for each other.
12. Don’t surrender too quickly.
Difficulties come in every relationship, yours isn’t any different. Remember you vowed to be together through thick and thin.
Just be patient and fight the difficulties together. The storm will pass if you don’t quit.
Building a successful marriage is not as easy as it seems. It takes a lot of hard work, love and emotional investment. If you want to have a strong and ever-lasting marriage with your partner, then make sure that you keep these pointers in mind, and see how your marriage flourishes.