Additionally, apply for ample food stamps, medical assistance, and public assistance.
4. Consult a professional for a restraining order.
Having a restraining order might seem extreme, but it is one of the best ways you can protect yourself, especially if your partner is a very dangerous person. But instead of doing that yourself, consult a professional and let them guide you through the whole process of having an air-tight restraining order.
Many times, lots of restraining orders are rejected because they are not filled in properly, and due to other silly mistakes. That is why taking help from a professional is ideal in such situations. Additionally, include a specific and strict set of consequences for your abuser, if they ever try to contact you and hurt you, in any way.
5. Refrain from talking about your plans.
Because domestic violence is such a sensitive and dangerous situation for you as a victim, do not make the mistake of divulging your intention of leaving to anyone. You can never know for sure who you can trust when it comes to this. Try to be as quiet and sneaky as you can.
If you tell your plans to someone else, there is a possibility that the other person might contact your abuser and expose you. Some may think that they are doing this for your own good, and some may simply do it because they are equally as evil as your abuser.
Want to know more about how you can keep yourself safe? Read 8 Things You Can Do When Stuck With An Abusive Person
6. Apply for child custody.
Another important thing that you should do, is to apply for the custody of your children. Abusers tend to use children to emotionally manipulate their victims into coming back to them. In order to be one step ahead of your abuser, quietly apply for sole custody of your children in a family court.
This way, you will not just protect your children, but you will also protect yourself from getting emotionally blackmailed and manipulated into going back to that hell-hole. The moment the court rules that you are the sole guardian of your kids, there’s nothing your abuser can do.
7. Contact the police.
If your partner is an extremely dangerous person, then do not hesitate to contact the police for protection. Have them on speed dial and call them whenever the situation escalates and you feel that your life is in danger.
You should also contact them and request them for protection when you plan on leaving. In case you need to go back to your abuser’s home to take something important, explain to them the gravity of the situation and insist on a police escort.
8. Have a secret mobile phone.
When you are planning on escaping from domestic violence, you need to be as careful and private as you can. If your abuser is someone who always checks your phone to monitor what you are up to, then it’s best if you have a second mobile phone for yourself. This will help you maintain privacy from the watchful eyes of your tormentor.
In case you have to contact any helplines, the police, or a trusted friend/family member, then do that from your secondary cell phone. There are many domestic abuse shelters and women shelters that provide free cell phones to victims, so try to get in touch with them to know more.
9. Build a list of emergency contacts.
When you are a victim of domestic violence, it is crucial that you have a list of emergency contacts saved in your phone and diary. In case you are not able to reach the police, then call any of your emergency contacts to help you when you need it. It can be your family members, friends, helpline numbers, shelters’ numbers, and even, neighbors.