25 Rules For Mothers With Sons

19. Always carry band-aids and wipes on you.

..especially the wipes.

 

20. Let his dad teach him how to do things

…without interrupting about how to do it the ‘right way.’  If you let his dad show and teach and discover with your son while he is growing up, some day down the road (after a short period of your son believing his dad knows nothing), he will come to the realization that his dad knows everything.

You will always be his mother, but in his grown-up man heart and mind, his dad will know the answers.  And this will be how, when your son is too busy with life to call and chat with his mom,  you will stay connected to what is happening in his life.  Because he will call his dad for answers, and his dad will secretly come and ask you.

 

21. Give him something to release his energy

Drums, a pen, a punching bag, wide open space, water, a dog.  Give him something to go crazy with – or he will use your stuff.  and then you’ll be sorry.

 

22. Build him forts

Forts have the ability to make everyday normal stuff into magic.  Throw the couch cushions, a couple blankets, and some clothespins and you can transform your living room into the cave of wonders.  For the rest of his life, he’ll be grateful to know that everyday normal stuff has the potential to be magical.

 

23. Take him to new places

Because it will make his brain and his heart open up wider, and the ideas and questions and memories will rush in.

 

24. Kiss him

Any mother of sons will tell you that little boys are so loving and sweet.  They can be harsh and wild and destructive during most of the day.  But there are these moments when they are so kind and sensitive and tender.  So much so that it can cause you to look around at the inward, reserved grown men in your life and think, ‘what happens in between that made you lose that?’

Let’s try to stop the cycle by kissing them when they’re loving and kissing them even more when they’re wild.

Kissing them when they’re 2 months and kissing them when they’re 16 years old. You’re the mom – you can go ahead and kiss him no matter how big he gets – and make sure he knows it.

P.s. (this one is just as important for dad’s too).

 

25. Be home base

You are home to him.  When he learns to walk, he will wobble a few feet away from you and then come back, then wobble away a little farther and then come back.  When he tries something new, he will look for your proud smile. When he learns to read, he will repeat the same book to you twenty times in a row, because you’re the only one who will listen that many times.

When he plays his sport, he will search for your face in the stands.  When he is sick, he will call you. When he really messes up, he will call you.  

When he is grown and strong and tough and big and he feels like crying, he will come to you; because a man can cry in front of his mother without feeling self-conscious.

Even when he grows up and has a new woman in his life and gets a new home, you are still his mother; home base, the ever constant, like the sun. Know that in your heart and everything else will fall into place.


Written by Tabitha Studer
Originally appeared in Team Studer

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Tabitha Studer
Hi. I’m Tabitha. I’m a mum to four, wife to my favorite human, and a high school Spanish teacher. I strive to be kind, grateful, and intentionally inspired each day.
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