5 Risks Every Man Should Take To Build Strong Relationships

every man should take to build strong relationships

When you feel a Hard Talk is necessary all you need to do is go back to the place where you’ve gained the last permission. If you said to your relationship counterpart at some point “Let’s agree that if one of us is feeling that the other is taking them for granted, we’ll immediately talk about it”.

This pre-work, this setting up, and gaining permission are your safe ground. All you have to do when initiating a Hard Talk is remind them first of this permission. Take the emotional baggage out of it from the beginning. The permission can take all the heat, not you.

If your counterpart reacts negatively to the Hard Talk all you need to do is fall back on what you’ve both previously agreed upon and hold fast to that. Do it in a kind, uncharged, and respectful way but don’t hold back your feelings. Push that arrow forward and gain confidence every time.

“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” – Maya Angelo

Read: Conversations That Help Connect and Build More Intimacy In Your Relationship

3. Evolve

Definition – To develop gradually, especially from a simple to a more complex form.

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5 Risks Every Man Should Take To Build Strong Relationships

As Tim Robbins famously said in his performance in The Shawshank Redemption – “Get busy living or get busy dying.”

Evolving as a man is vital to strengthening relationships. The risk it takes to continually strive for our own personal greatness, challenge the status quo, learn more, grow, and prosper as a man takes guts.

The forces of society weigh heavily on our broad shoulders.

At times it’s hard to try and carry this weight. The tendencies to eat whatever we want, drink ourselves to sleep, lay on the couch, or escape through other addictions cozily snuggles up to our psyche and can stunt our evolution.

“The whole point of being alive is to evolve into the complete person you were intended to be.” – Oprah Winfrey

Continually risking to be put into that uncomfortable place of learning will force us to evolve. In this evolution, we gain more skills that can strengthen our relationships. Others are evolving, we must do so or risk becoming extinct.

4. Be Foolish

“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.” – Helen Keller

Life is serious enough. Our relationships can always use a bit of silly. There isn’t a Top Ten list out there which doesn’t include a sense of humor as top trait wanted when searching for a man.

Children want to play with their Dads and don’t always have to witness Dad being perfect at everything.

Co-Workers need to see a different side of you.

Your Lover will appreciate a different twist.

Being Foolish can be defined as lacking in wisdom. So being foolish opens up the path to wisdom and wisdom in a relationship is a good thing.

“He is the wisest man who knows himself to be ill-equipped for the study of wisdom” – Plato

The challenge with risking to be foolish is admitting we’re human. Men like to retreat into caves and solve problems, alone. When we allow ourselves to be foolish we’re showing our vulnerability, our lack of expertise, and our playful side. It’s in this foolishness that we can open up and learn from others, gain wisdom and show that we are indeed human.

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