There will be challenges and unexpected situations that arise. But he will stay by your side and be your teammate through it all.
Of course, there is an asterisk on this. This does not mean you can disrespect him, lie, or cheat. It does not mean you can betray his trust and expect him to stick around because he promised to commit to you.
This point is about things the two of you go through together and him having the integrity needed to not walk away when times get hard.
Any man can be by your side on the sunny days. The real test of character is whether or not he will hold the umbrella over you during the stormy days.
7. Whether or not you can open up to him.
Comfort in a relationship (the good kind, not the kind that makes you stop trying) comes from the ability to be open and honest with your partner – and the ability to do this comes from knowing you will never be judged.
A good man will encourage you to open up and share your feelings with him. There should never be any fear of him flying off the handle or overreacting if you share something with him.
This means being able to be the most genuine, uncensored version of yourself around him.
8. Whether or not he is dedicated to improving himself.
Whether it be learning new things, developing a new skill set, reading a new book or watching a documentary – a good man who prides himself on continuous self improvement will always be intellectually challenging you and keeping your attention.
He will be doing these things for himself, but the added benefit will be the positive impact it has on your relationship.
9. Whether or not you are safe around him.
I have always said that I believe one of the best compliments a woman can give a man is telling him that she feels safe around him.
Regardless of how attracted she is to you or how funny she thinks you are or how much money you have – if a woman cannot sleep soundly by your side at night, none of it matters.
10. Whether or not he is committed to loving you.
Love is not a passive emotion. It is not just something that bursts into our hearts like fireworks only to dissipate as quickly as it arrived. Love is a choice.
It is a conscious effort to look past differences, to embrace how your partner can improve you, to embrace what they can teach you about life – and what you can teach to them in return. Love is not something you ‘fall’ into, it is something you rise into.
It is something you rise into together, converging and combining your paths when you meet, and continuing on one single road of life together from that point on.
That road will have speed bumps, and potholes, and unexpected obstacles. It may not be the road you envisioned yourself going down – but you can take solace in the fact that it is the only road you would ever want to be on, because the person you love is on it next to you.