3. Don’t beat yourself up for trusting the wrong person and falling in love with them.
It’s very natural to shame yourself and beat yourself up when you keep on falling for potential because, after a point, you start feeling as if there is something wrong with you. You berate yourself, even more, when you stay with someone for a long time, and realize much later that things were never going to change, and it was all a lie. Stop doing this! You have got nothing to be ashamed of, least of all, yourself.
You fell in love with that person because they made you happy. You fell in love with that person because you saw goodness in them. You always look for the best in people, and that’s never a bad thing, rather it’s one of the most courageous things someone can ever do. However, you need to protect your heart and feelings too, don’t you? Keep that goodness, hope, and kindness in your heart but give them to someone who truly deserves it. Give your all in a relationship that will never make you feel confused or blindsided.
You deserve so much more than half-baked and insincere relationships.
4. It’s hard to let go and move on, but you need to do it.
It is never easy to let go of the one you love, but sometimes it’s important and necessary that you do it. Letting go of the hope that you felt for the relationship, is not easy, but sometimes that’s the best thing you can do for yourself. Trying to move on from the person you have loved with all your heart and soul is excruciating, but do you really want to spend your life loving someone, who will always ‘almost’ love you, or will make you ‘almost’ happy? Is falling for potential the ideal way to live and love?
Yes, change is difficult, especially when you have worked very hard on something. But holding on to something that will only cause you more pain is not going to make things better. Letting go is hard in the beginning, but give it some time and patience, and you will see that the pain and the scars are slowly disappearing from your heart. You cannot keep on giving, whilst the other person has absolutely no regard and responsibility towards you.
Once you leave the relationship for good, you will realize just how much you were doing for that person, who wouldn’t even lift a finger to do anything for you.
5. You will always know who they are, because they will show you.
It is always typical of empaths to ignore red flags even when they are being abundantly displayed in front of their eyes. This is because, empaths always look for the good in someone, and believe that every person has the potential to be better. You always tell yourself that no one is perfect, and that’s why you keep on giving them chances they don’t deserve, even in the slightest.
People who don’t deserve you will always show you their red flags, but it is up to you to decide whether or not, you will hold them accountable. Nobody can hide who they truly are for a very long time. If you keep on ignoring their glaring faults and keep on convincing yourself that things are not as bad as you think, and they will definitely get better, then you are simply setting yourself up for more heartbreak.
When someone shows you more red flags than green flags, always know that you deserve better, and there’s no point wasting your time and energy on them, who can at most offer you potential, and nothing more than that.