3 Things To Remember When You Are Falling In Love

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Some people have a tendency to drop their friends, family, obligations, and interests when they start seeing someone new. I understand how seductive this pattern is (after all, you want to see them/touch them/taste them all the time!) but it isn’t serving you or the building of your budding relationship’s foundation.

It’s important to keep doing the things that make you happy that aren’t tied to your new significant other. If 100% of your emotional fulfillment comes from your new partner, you could eventually start to resent them for taking up so much of your time and they could begin to feel stifled by you, knowing full well that they provide the majority of your happiness.

We all need multiple pathways to joy and fulfillment… and while there’s nothing wrong with being with a partner who you feel happy to be around, you should also experience joy from other sources in your life.

Read: Healthy Boundaries: How To Protect Your Personal Space

If this point is particularly difficult for you, proactively reach out to one or two of your closest friends and explicitly tell them “Hey, I’m starting to fall for this person and I want to make sure that I keep being me and I don’t get completely sucked into it… and I also value our friendship and want to continue to invest in it. Can you help keep me accountable for hanging out with you every week or two, just to make sure that I’m not just spending time with (your new love interest’s name)? That would help me out a lot.”

Keep doing the things that make you you, and keep seeing the people who you feel lit up by (in your relationship with your significant other and outside of it)… and your relationship will thank you.

Dedicated to your success,
Jordan

Written by: Jordan Gray
Originally appeared in: Jordan Gray Consulting

What advice do you have for someone falling in love for the first time? ( or maybe for the second time). Watch out for this video about the brain when falling in love


3 Things To Remember When You’re Falling In Love With Someone New
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Jordan Gray

Sex and relationship coach Jordan Gray helps people remove their emotional blocks and maintain thriving intimate relationships. You can see more of his writing at JordanGrayConsulting.comView Author posts