ENFJ: Emotionally detached
This type has a lot to offer someone in a relationship. They’re warm and giving, and in the end, they want someone to care for them in return. Detached, overly independent types won’t go far with ENFJs. They need someone who nurtures them and their relationship.
Here’s what stops a relationship in its tracks for Introverts:
Relationship Deal breakers for Introverts
ISFP: Lack of acceptance
ISFPs are deep and creative. They live for their artistry and acceptance of their uniqueness. When they feel appreciated by their loved one to their core, and they are able to enjoy a shared experience of art in its many forms, they want for nothing else. Make them feel rejected and the relationship is over as the last exhibit at the museum.
ISFJs are known for their cautiousness, and to give freely in a romantic relationship, they need to feel safe and secure. They crave love and reassurance. Anything that rocks the boat for them, including insensitivity, callousness, or inappropriate behavior that goes against their high moral standards is likely to have them walking backward and away from a permanent relationship.
The typical INTP is an intellectual, independent thinker. They want someone with whom they can enjoy stimulating conversation and be on the same level without tipping the scale. If you go all needy on them, they turn the other way.
INTJ: Low standards
INTJs want to be the best people they can be. They value personal growth and raising the bar. If their significant other doesn’t invest in themselves and seek out personal achievement, the INTJ becomes disillusioned. If you have low standards for yourself and others – or you break their moral code, that’s a big red flag for them.
The ISTP needs its relationship to be carefree and comfortable. They are practical and grounded and get very unsettled when they must navigate the tricky bits of relationships. If their partner is vague or keeps them guessing, they can’t relax into the relationship. Walking on eggshells? This feeling is a major red flag for an ISTP.
ISTJs are logical, practical individuals. They enjoy it when a partner can bring them out of their shell and help them to relax. If they are pushed too far outside their comfort zone, or if things border on irresponsible, their Spidey senses go off. Break a rule or the law, and your relationship is over!
INFP: Not meeting expectations
The INFP type is idealistic. They want their real-life romance to be even better than their dreams. If they don’t feel a profound connection with their lover, this relationship is going to stall fast. They also keep a running checklist of their ideal mate. Too many strikes, and you’ll be out!
The INFJ wants a love that’s deep and true. They won’t be happy with someone who’s shallow, or fake. They want to love with authenticity and without abandon. Soulmates only. Step aside if you’re not the real deal.
Understanding your type can make you realize how far apart you are with your partner, and what, if anything you focus on to improve your chances of bliss. Recognize your significant other’s type, too, and get real with yourself. Are you able and willing to cultivate the relationship that you both need, or do you really have a deal-breaker?
Either way, you’ll have a better appreciation of this relationship — or a new one.
Lisa Petsinis is a certified coach and a certified Myers-Briggs® type indicator practitioner. Contact Lisa if you’d like to discover your type and learn how you can use it to enrich your life, starting today. You can also sign up for Lisa’s newsletter for even more advice.