These guys are romance artists looking for their next victim.
The Anonymous Man:
Alphaman101 does not have a photo and he sends: Hi, you’re very pretty and I would like to get to know you better. Allen
A man without a photo does not deserve a reply, but if you feel you must, you can reply, “I appreciate your message but I don’t give out my personal email to strangers or correspondence to people without photos.
The Cheating Man:
Signs of married men and cheaters:
They don’t post a photo, or they post a fake photo or the photo is clearly dated, dark or blurry (he doesn’t want anyone to recognize him.) They are unwilling to provide additional photos, claiming he doesn’t have current photos.
They will message you on a dating site and when you click on his profile to check him out, he has already hidden his profile so no one can see him.
They pursue women who live in another state. He tells you he’s relocating to an area near you and that he’s getting a “jump-start” on his new social life. He’s plotting long-distance affairs to hide his infidelity.
RUTiredofFrogs send this smokescreen:
“Hi, Hope this finds you doing well. Beautiful photo of you. I am sorry I do not have one and have not completed my profile. I decided not to because of my position in the bank. But would gladly email you one. If I may I will at least describe myself. My name is John. I have been in banking for over 30 years. I am a single white male age 55. Never married, just never found the one and as you get older that gets harder to find. Brown hair, with some gray coming in. Blue / green eyes. Non-smoker. 6-00 tall, Firm ,tone, athletic, muscular body, muscular chest, ( . ) ( . ) big pecs lol. I enjoy swimming, working out, weights and water weights, snuggle, cuddle, massage, hot tubs, readings, movies, history, museums, arts, music, weekend getaways, travel, sports, sun, water, I am attracted to older mature women, they are more stable, easy to talk to and know what they want. I am about an hour from Louisville. Love coming over to the city, Hope to hear from you. Sincerely John xoxo”
These guys are not worth your time and energy of a reply.
ExecWorldTraveler: Don posted his age as 65; looking at the one bald headshot he was pushing 80. His essay was 668 words without a paragraph break (gasp!). He tried desperately to convince me he was a wealthy, successful, influential man. (I have condensed his extremely verbose email.)
“I am a retired corporate executive and recent widower, financially independent, with residences in Nashville TN & Denver CO, who loves to visit the world’s great cities and enjoys concerts, art museums, movies, theater, fine restaurants, daily workouts, and day hikes. Extremely family oriented with 3 successful children, all Ivy Leaguers with graduate degrees, who all, unfortunately, live on the West Coast, which is why I keep a place in Portland. I was very lucky from a financial viewpoint in my 35-year corporate life so I strongly believe in giving back now to charity and also to my children and needy relatives. I feel strongly that parents/grandparents, if at all financially possible, should pay for school tuition for their children/grandchildren and should be helped with their major medical expenses and even given help in purchasing their homes, etc. but like Warren Buffett, I believe that children/grandchildren should be given/inherit only enough money to be able to work at jobs at which they want to work and not so much money that they lose the motivation to work. I also believe in family vacations paid for by parents/grandparents. My family does annual winter vacations in Hawaii and these fond memories of family vacations have been shown by studies done by the Greater Good Science Center affiliated with the Psychology Department of Cal-Berkeley to create far more happiness than the accumulation of expensive cars and the like. Personally.