10 Red Flags in Man Messages To Watch Out For When Dating Online

Red Flags Man Messages Dating Online

4. The Hacker.

“Hi Beautiful, This is for your eyes only, I just wanted you to see what I look like in these new outfits. Let me know what you think after viewing the pics. Here is the link match.com gave me, so you can view the pics because the resolution is much for match.com. Let me know if it’s cool or not.”

I couldn’t resist; I clicked on the link (which was non-existent) and my Match.com account was hacked, sending the same bogus message to dozens of strange online men who in turn, emailed me (thinking I was sending them a flirtatious, salacious message) and their accounts were also hacked, generating the same message to others.

Don’t click on links sent to you by strange men.

Related: The Reason Why Falling In Love Online Doesn’t Count

5. The Ignorance.

“Ya look like a friend dear!! I’m Swain Schaefer on Facebook. I’ma kinda halfway repaired halfway retarded…I ain’t gotta do nada I don’t wanna. I love musicians and can pick my work…neet. I’m an octopus. I play sessions, play at ole folks homes (ya think WE’RE “LONG IN THE TOOTH”. REALLY GIVES MY LIFE PURPOSE..YOU’LL HAFTA TAG ALONG/ Ooop, I volunteer at play gigs…Was touring w. Delbert McClinton…the pointer Sistuhs till they couldn’t great..decades-long gig… SO…yew talk somehow bout it? Swain

For obvious reasons, I ignored his message and two weeks later he wrote:

“U never got back in touch. Why??”

6. The Interrogator.

Brad wrote, “So you have that creative thang going on? And you have defied the aging process! Where are you from originally? How have you evolved? Have you been in therapy? Too many questions from a complete and total stranger? Brad”

Yes, Brad, too many questions.

7. The No-Show.

TigerTerry123 showed a sincere interest in me and after a couple of lively back-and-forth emails, he invited me to meet him for a happy hour cocktail. We set a time and place and he emailed, “See you there Nancy! Bring that smile, love it!!!”

An hour before our evening meeting, he emailed, “Nancy, I need to pass this evening. Can you do Friday or Saturday?” Followed with, “Just leaving the office. Hope you aren’t angry. Really do want to meet you.”

His last-minute cancellation was rude and unacceptable. I emailed him, “Tom. No. Not angry. But I turned down an invitation to meet you and canceling an hour prior to our date was inconvenient. Nancy.”

He apologized and ask to meet me the following week, saying, “Can‘t wait. Ok, I will be there. I promise!!!

The day of our meeting he emailed me, “I apologize, I am not going to be able to make it this evening.”

I emailed him, “Good luck on your journey.”

Related: How To Spot A Man Who Breaks His Promises and What To Do If You’re Dating One

8. The Con Artist.

Con artists want you to immediately go IM (instant messaging) and get your personal email and phone number. They want to obtain personal information about you quickly so he adapts his conversation to meet your needs, tug at your heart and gain control of you.

Barry emailed, “Your profile popped up on the last day of my subscription. great pics your a very beautiful lady. I decided to send you this short message. I’m am handsome, tall, a gentleman, financially secure, I’ve lived all over the world. I would love to get to know you more and better but I am not renewing my subscription. If you don’t mind Here is my ID on Yahoo IM ( barrycares2016 ) feel free to mail me on barrycares2016/@yahoo.com. I will be waiting to hear back from you. Have a great day! Barry”

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