Putting the Three E’s Together
Consistency and practice are the keys when using empathy, empowerment, and engagement. When school is in session, schedules often become busier and more hurried. It can be easy to start using the Three E’s with the intention to continue, but then get busy, fall back into regular routines and return to old ways. It can help if you reserve a time each day, or even a day each week to practice using the Three E’s.
If it has been a while since you and your teen have comfortably connected, it may take some time before you start seeing the results of using the Three E’s. But, don’t give up. Often, positive impacts are being made, even if they’re not immediately noticed.
With time, the Three E’s will help your teen learn how to communicate better with you and others. It also leaves your teen feeling less lonely and less isolated. And, you’ll gain a better understanding of what is going on with your teen, and not feel as left out of her life.
It’s okay to make mistakes.
Your teen will make mistakes and so will you. It’s part of being human. Teens do not care about the number of mistakes you make; they care about the correction of the experience. When parents make mistakes, they may get angry at themselves or their children. They may yell at their child or overreact to a situation and then discipline more harshly.
If this kind of situation happens, it would be important to go back to your teen and say something such as, “I am really sorry that I grounded you for the entire week, and once I learned that you were telling me the truth, I should have come back and apologized sooner. I made a mistake and I hope that you can forgive me.”
Empathy, empowerment, and engagement can help you connect and grow closer to your teen. The Empowered Child book provides more information and examples of how you can use The Three E’s to help your child address bullying and other issues. If your child experiences anxiety or depression that does not go away, it’s important to seek professional help. I am always available for assistance and you can click here if you’d like to schedule a complimentary 30-minute phone consultation.
Trying to reconnect with your teen might seem like a formidable task at times, but if you genuinely want to cultivate a good bond with them, then you need to put in serious efforts. It might seem like you are hitting a wall initially, but after a point, all your efforts to reconnect with your teen will prove to be fruitful. And you will see that with time, the relationship between you and your child is getting deeper and more meaningful.