5. They give up too soon
No baby ever got up onto its little wobbly legs, took one faltering step, fell on its face and said, “That’s it, I’m done. I’m through with walking!”
Some people are naturally better at creating good relationships than others. But any woman can master the art of having a great relationship. You may have to fall on your face once or twice. That’s normal. It’s all part of the learning experience. But if you keep “falling on your face”, get some help to figure out how you can change that.
6. They send out the wrong message
That “I hate all men” message is actually putting you at risk.
There’s a special kind of man who will approach the woman sporting the big “Stay “Away” banner. That man is the Hunter. He piques his vanity and massages his rather large ego to win over the woman who’s sworn off men. For him, it’s all about the thrill of the chase. You’re flattered that he’s going to such effort to woo you, but beware.
Once he’s caught up with you, he’ll soon get bored and move on. The chase is his thing — not cozy domesticity.
7. They think they will never want love again
Women who give up on love do so — for a while — because they love too much and want a partner so much. That yearning isn’t going to go away. Whatever they say now, they’re not going to enter a nunnery, and they will want search for love again. They can silence that yearning for a while, but it will come back even stronger than before.
Instead, they need to ask themselves, “Since love is so important to me, how can I do things differently next time? What’s the most powerful thing I can do to change the way I ‘do’ relationships so I find the love I truly want next time?”
The yearning for love is a normal, powerful human drive. When we try to suppress it, it only comes back stronger.
The polls may say what they please, but the reality is that the vast majority of women need to feel loved. Giving up on love won’t make you happy, and it won’t work. Taking a sabbatical from love while you become the woman who can captivate and keep her perfect partner makes a lot more sense.
You don’t have to give up on something simply because you don’t know the best way to do it. It makes much more sense to learn the simple skill that will turn your love life around.
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Written by Annie Kaszina
Originally appeared on Yourtango.com
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