Constantly starting drama with him is also a means to gain reassurance from him about how he feels. He doesn’t text you one night, you assume it means he’s cheating or he’s losing interest, and you make a huge stink about it, really hoping he’ll shower you with the reassurance of how much he cares.
The fact is, if you don’t feel deserving of his love, then nothing he does will convince you otherwise. Which brings me to my next point …
5. You don’t really love yourself
I’ll keep saying it until I’m blue in the face. You can never let love in from the outside if you don’t already feel it on the inside.
It just doesn’t make sense. How can you possibly believe someone could love you if you don’t love yourself? And forget love, a lot of people don’t even like themselves. They are not girlfriend material.
Related: 12 Tips To Self-Love And Compassion
Self-love does not come through being in a relationship. Neither does happiness. Neither does healing from all your emotional wounds. If you have internal emotional issues, they are yours to deal with and until you do, romantic relationships will never come easy.
Now I’m not saying they’ll never come. There are plenty of people who hate themselves who are in relationships. But I guarantee you those are not happy relationships.
The most important factor when it comes to having a love that lasts is being in a good place internally. Once you’re there, then some of it comes down to timing and luck. But you can’t always control these things. The only thing you can control is yourself. Make sure you are at your best, that you’ve worked through your issues, that you feel good about who you are and are confident you will find a man who really sees and appreciates you.
Are you a girlfriend material?
Written by: Sabrina Alexis
Originally appeared on: Thought Catalog
Republished with permission.