Instead of consistently recognizing all that is wrong with the world, start to train yourself to identify what is right in your life. Try asking yourself, “What is one positive outcome of trying and failing?”
4. Lack of Confidence
Somewhere along this journey that we call life, you stopped believing you were good enough.
A quick fix for this cure is to think of something that makes you feel incredibly confident. It could be as simple as your ability to ride a bike or ace a job interview.
Would it be fair to say you have not always had confidence in your interview skills? What changed then?
What changed is the fact that you have secured several jobs over the years. The same idea goes with your confidence in your ability to ride a bicycle.
When you accomplish a goal, doubt vanishes from your consciousness. You no longer feel the need to spend three days preparing for a job interview or researching how to ride a bike. You are confident because you have successfully passed a variety of interview questions before.
You lack confidence and feel restless if you haven’t prepared sufficiently for the task at hand.
5. Excessive Dependence on Others
Depending on other people is not always a bad thing. As an African proverb states, “If you want to go fast, go alone. But if you want to go far, go together.”
When you work with others, you have an accountability partner who motivates you to continue. However, the problem arises when you depend too much on others.
The more you depend on others, the more you relinquish control of parts of your life.
It is comparable to those group projects you had in school. If you don’t like to procrastinate, you will be frustrated by a partner who does not look at the assignment until a week before its due date.
To stop feeling restless and keep others from siphoning your motivation, you need to collaborate with people who share your core values.
6. Experiencing Burnout
Burnout is no joke. It is usually the result of trying to do too much too quickly. You feel as if you have lost time; you want to make up for the last five years in a short time.
A classic example would be someone who has gained 90 pounds over three years and now wish to lose it all in three months.
Is it possible? Sure! But what kind of diet would someone need to maintain in an attempt to lose a pound a day?
Similarly, someone has wanted to start a business for the past couple of years. They have always found a reason to push the date back, but now they feel a sense of urgency. They slave away in their day job and work and work on the business all night, causing them only to get an hour of sleep.
You may undoubtedly feel like things are finally progressing in the right direction, but how long can you keep this pace up?
When you eventually burnout, you will be feeling restless, significantly when your gains slowly erode. Because of that, you need to maintain a realistic timeline for your goals. Remember: You are building a life-changing habit, and that takes time.
7. Being an Army of One
Whether it is difficult for you to trust others or you are attempting to conceal your setbacks, secluding yourself is a recipe for disaster.
There is a reason why the best among us have coaches and mentors. Seeing things from a different perspective is beneficial, especially if it’s from an expert at achieving the same goals you set for yourself.