And yet so many women find themselves getting emotionally attached too soon in relationships because they so desperately want to not be single, and so they convince themselves that this guy is one to fall for.
(The good news is that, in Britain, at least, 61% of single ladies are happy with their relationship status.)
And here’s the funny trick about being single: the moment that you become happy with your single life is the very moment a guy will come in and sweep you off your feet.
It’s counterintuitive…or is it?
I think that once you accept that you can be happy without relying on a man when you can live your life under your terms, then that’s why that guy will find you. He’s going to be attracted to a strong and emotionally healthy lady.
And wouldn’t you want to find him when you’re feeling whole and strong? When he can add value to your life without you feeling like you need to cling to him to be satisfied?
You can and should be happy when you’re single. It just takes a little bit of work every day. It can be something as simple as journaling about how you’re feeling (and sure, some days you’ll be down or lonely, and that’s okay).
Or getting out of the house.
Making new friends or taking on new hobbies.
And don’t feel like you’ll never, ever find that guy. That’s another reason why women often develop a premature emotional attachment. They assume they won’t find that magical love, so they try to force it.
But you know better, don’t you?
Depending on how you look at the concept of love, you could see it like this: there’s one great love out there waiting for you.
That guy you divorced last year after 15 years of marriage?
He wasn’t it.
Just because you put in the time with him doesn’t make him your soulmate.
But that next guy? The one with the flaws that you overlook because you so want him to be right for you?
He’s not either.
I know. Patience sucks. But you have to trust me that there is a right guy out there for you. He will find you. You will not force any man into being the one.
If you’re wondering why you fall in love more than any of your friends, and why so few guys seem to reciprocate your feelings, it’s time to consider whether or not you have an unhealthy emotional attachment to men.
Hey, you could even blame your zodiac sign as being the cause of your attachment issues.
Don’t worry. This isn’t irreversible.
The first step to changing the situation is to acknowledge as soon as you have feelings that might be out of proportion to the amount of time you’ve spent with a man.
Just note them. Certainly don’t act on them.
As you spend more time with him, ask yourself: is this love? When you look at him, do you feel the love? Or are there things you try to ignore that would otherwise tell you that this isn’t the one?
If so, start listening to your instinct. It wants the best for you.
Set your standards high. Love, when it’s real, feels right.
I’m committed to helping you be your best self so you can clear the path to love. Check out my 7 Emotional Principles, because they’ll help you on your journey.
So the next time you feel that you are getting emotionally attached to a guy you just met, remember these golden pointers, and try to approach the whole situation a bit more objectively.