Marriage is one of the most important decisions in anyone’s life, and if you’re serious about it, you plan to ride this one until the end. The period before you get married is one of the most stressful too, and some may feel like they’re slowly losing it. But that’s perfectly normal and happens with most couples who decide to get married. The most important part is to get ready for that emotional roller coaster and prepare early. You also have to prepare for what happens after the ceremony. Let’s take a look at how you can mentally prepare for your marriage.
1. Remember Why You’re Doing This
The first thing you need to do is remember the person that you fell in love with. Remember the first time you thought of proposing or when they proposed to you. Relive this joy every time you get nervous and remember what it meant to have the person you love more than anything spend the rest of their lives with you. You want to approach the whole experience from a place of gratitude.
Also, think about what it will be like to raise a family with this person. If you can’t imagine it or aren’t thrilled at the idea, then you might have to sit down with them and see if that’s the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
2. Don’t Be Tempted to Compare Relationships
“In the beginning, I really struggled with this,” says Katie, in an interview with factory51. She also stated that her friends’ relationships looked perfect from the outside and that she would get jealous at times. The issue is that you only see the best parts of a relationship and have no idea what it’s like behind the scenes. They could even be the ones who are envious of you.
So, don’t make that mistake, and don’t chase the picture-perfect relationship either. These relationships are only perfect on paper and don’t reflect true life as a married couple.
3. Make Some Tough Decisions
This is also where you will need to draw some lines in the sand and cut some people off. If you have friends who are unfavourable to your marriage or don’t like your partner for some reason, it might be time to let them go. You can have one last time with them and explain the situation. They can decide to accept it or not, but this will have to be done for the sake of your marriage and your future family.
4. Lay Everything on the Table
You also need to sit down with your future spouse and lay a clear roadmap for the next 5 to 10 years. What are your professional plans? What if you happen to have children? How many children do you plan to have, if any? What kind of area do you want to live in? Will you be raising your children in faith or in a secular way? And if you decide to go for a religious upbringing, which religion/denomination will it be?
The above are all important questions that will need to be answered. You don’t want to make false promises and act like some deal breakers aren’t either. These could very well be your marriage’s undoing.
These are all things that will allow you to prepare not only for your wedding day but for your life after. Make sure that you know as much as you can about the person you’re about to marry and be honest with them about your plans and feelings before you make things official.