5. Do you believe everything happens for a reason, or do we just find reasons after things happen?
Most people are divided into two categories, the ones that think everything is destiny and the ones that think life is a series of random occurrences. This thought-provoking question will give you insight into where he stands and is sure to rouse some very interesting conversation.
6. Is there anything you consider absolutely unforgivable?
Someone’s answer to this question will probably depend on their life experiences, for instance, if they’ve been cheated on and now consider that unforgivable. Some people can forgive anything, others are pretty tough and may have a low threshold for certain behaviors.
7. If you woke up tomorrow with no fear, what would you do first?
Now wouldn’t that be a fun thing to wake up to! When you ask these types of fun questions to a guy, you can figure out what he really wants to do in life, and what’s holding him back from getting there.
8. In your life, what has been the biggest blessing in disguise?
We’ve all had experiences that felt like the worst possible thing that could happen at the time and ended up being one of the best things to ever happen, and it can be fun to look back and see that a lot of the time, things do work out for the best.
9. If you could pick one year of your life to do-over, which would it be and why?
People can interpret this question in different ways. Some might want to re-live a year that was really fun and amazing and others might want a re-do of a year where they made significant mistakes. Either way, it’s fun to think about.
10. What is one behavior that you never tolerate?
Everyone has their personality pet peeves, guys, in particular, can get very turned off (even if they’re out with a supermodel) but certain behaviors that they find completely unattractive. When you ask him this question, you’ll learn his deal breakers (hopefully) before you commit any of them!
11. Does spending time with other people energize you or drain you?
This question will tell you if he’s an introvert or an extrovert. A lot of people think it’s easy to distinguish between the two but it’s not. People assume extroverts are fun and friendly and chatty while introverts are shy, withdrawn, and quiet.
This mistake is the reason why I thought I was an extrovert my entire life when really, I’m an outgoing introvert! Extroverts usually feel energized by being around people while introverts need time alone in order to re-charge.
12. If you could write a note to your younger self, what would you say in only three words?
This question is both sad and sweet, because don’t we all wish we could impart some wisdom onto our younger selves? It also has the potential to talk a bit about your childhoods, which is a really significant way to get to know someone since so much of who we are was shaped in our early years.
13. What is the one thing that makes you feel alive?
We all have something. Men in particular need to feel like they are achieving their “mission” in life. Every man has one, but not all of them are actively working to achieve it. His mission is usually the closest thing to his heart, the thing that makes him feel alive. This question will give you insight into what his mission is, which will tell you a lot about who he really is.