When you are addressing their feelings and emotions, you are directly implying that you care about how they feel. It is important to make them understand that all their emotions and feelings are completely valid and it’s okay to feel the way they do. They will feel safe to share things with you when you show compassion and care for whatever they are feeling.
It is important not to assume that something is wrong. Instead of asking “what’s wrong”, allow them to share their thoughts and feelings. Tell them that you are always there for them and create a space that they feel safe in. When they open up to you, don’t listen to just respond and fix things. Instead, try listening to them in order to understand. Don’t force your opinions on them. Try saying “I’m so sorry you are going through that. I am here for you and I love you. Would you like to know what I would do?”
2. What made you laugh today?
It is essential as a parent to know what is happening in your kid’s life during the day. It can help to ask less yes or no questions so that your child engages in the conversation. The child may not have an answer to this question every day and that is okay. Your kid should know that you care about what is happening in their lives, whether or not they are happy.
It’s important for your children to know that you care even about the little things that happen in their life, and most importantly, they care about what makes you laugh and gives you happiness.
Having an emotionally healthy relationship with your kid requires patience and understanding.
3. What are you grateful for today?
This is one of the most important questions that you can ask if you want to raise a mentally strong kid, as this helps in developing a positive mindset in them. It is important that your child knows how to appreciate the good things in life. Hence asking them about what they are grateful for every day can make them appreciate all the things they are lucky to have in their lives.
It is important to raise your kids with a fulfilled and grateful heart. It’s important not to force them but encourage them to be grateful for the things they receive every day.
You can ask your child to list out three things they are grateful for every day. They can also maintain a gratitude journal so that they can write down three things to be grateful for as a part of their daily routine. This will help your child to grow spiritually and mentally.
4. Is there anything you would like to share with us?
You may not usually ask this question every day but it may be beneficial to ask this occasionally if you feel that they are upset about something. As parents, it is essential for your kids to know that you won’t judge them and you want the best for them.
The important thing is to ensure that you create a safe space for your child so that they feel comfortable sharing the things that are bothering them.
Isn’t it better that your kid feels comfortable sharing things with you rather than hiding them from you? So in order to ensure that they do, you need to make sure that you are sensitive towards what they are saying. You can encourage them by saying “That must be really hard for you”. This will show that you are acknowledging the challenges that life is presenting to them. They need to know that it is okay to share their deepest darkest secrets, without any judgment or remarks from you.