Obviously, the entire point of being chivalrous is to show someone respect or that you value them. This is the exact opposite of the aforementioned presupposition. For this reason, a woman who appreciates the kindness of a goodhearted man will need to feel as though he is giving it to her genuinely, and not because he feels he is above her or because he is trying to get something from her.
Finding a balance that allows a relationship to flourish when two strong independent people come together is tricky. Men need to understand that they can be with a woman who lives her own life and not sacrifice any of his own masculinity. And strong women need to understand that being strong and independent does not have to mean being overbearing or abrasive. Men and women are both equally worthy of respect without needing to prove their dominance over each other.
The best teams are made up of people who fill the puzzle pieces of the other. Who work well together and respect each other’s strengths while balancing out their weaknesses. Love is a team sport, and with the right person by your side, you will always win the game.
Written by James Michael Sama Originally appeared in The Good Men Project Republished with permission