Feelings Become Thoughts Become Beliefs: We Can Decide What We Think and Believe
From the feeling of fear, for example, our brains make a thought that forms into words in our head, such as, “Wow, what an idiot that another driver is!” Or maybe, “I almost hit that guy! What’s wrong with me?!“
The emotions take us to a conclusion or belief about what happened, or about ourselves. We might likely conclude it was our fault, and we just did something stupid. At the same time in another part of our mind, we wonder what our mom would say about our (bad) driving. Or what would have happened if our child had been in the car with us?
We’re usually really hard on ourselves when things go wrong in life. Any time spent with a con man, a sociopath, is traumatic, we sustain prolonged traumatic injury. Then we go through post trauma afterward. This is unavoidable. We decide what winning is for our life in the aftermath, and post-trauma. We decide what’s next. Post-trauma isn’t the “new us.
We Know Somethings Wrong But We Don’t Know What: This is Normal
Though we aren’t sure of exactly what just happened or how for most people our natural first thoughts are related to taking responsibility for what happened. We’re usually really hard on ourselves when things go wrong in life. We worry about what could have happened (but didn’t) and think about what we should have done instead of whatever it was we just did. All this is going on while we’re aware we need to refocus on driving… so this won’t happen again. Sound familiar…?
This is what post-trauma is. It isn’t who we are. It’s the bodies natural delay from traumatic event to the beginning of healing. It’s a kind of debriefing. We take in and review the trauma so that we can feel safe again, and skip another such close call in the future.
It’s up to us in this case with a con man to learn how to manage the debriefing, the post-trauma so that we come out whole, healed and with every answer to what happened. And, the good news is, the answers are here.
Post-traumatic stress is the unavoidable fallout of the aftermath of time spent with a sociopath. We aren’t permanently broken. This is temporary. PTSD is the normal result of trauma, and we can recover. There are specific, effective methods and perspectives that heal PTSD after a sociopath.
Hearing the word “sociopath” is only the beginning. That’s when recovery can begin. After the trauma of a hijacking by a sociopath, our emotions and thinking are all over the place because the trauma deregulates our nervous system. If we take in the effective methods of re-regulating our nervous system and other specific insights, we can fully recover.
PTSD is the Beginning of Healing From Trauma
We’ll feel all or some of the following things in PTSD after a sociopath: Profound fear. Weepiness and physical weakness. Sorrow, grief, despair, depression. Inability to concentrate on daily things, and our minds flood with thoughts of what happened.
There’s extreme and sudden weight loss or weight gain. Illness. Fatigue, abnormal sleep patterns, sleep in the day, but unable to sleep at night, waking in the early morning and not being able to sleep again, can’t sleep at all or sleep all the time. Nightmares.
Post-trauma can include fear of going places that hold memories related to them. Terrorizing recall of scenarios with them. Confusion, indecision, and doubt. Emphatic desire to leave, move, change jobs or make drastic change… it affects our body and mind. We might miss them so much we feel like we could die. We feel broke.
Trauma is… “Anything less than nurturing. An event or experience that changes your vision of yourself and your place in the world.”
– Judy Crane