9. Be assertive
Negativity can often seem to be more powerful and stronger than your calm and composed demeanour. You might feel like fading away in front of their mean and aggressive behavior. But you need to take a stand and feel the power of composure within you. So make sure you are direct and upfront with someone who is being mean. However, it doesn’t mean you need to be mean to them as well. You simply need to stand your ground.
10. Be mindful
Toxic and mean people can easily trigger our fight or flight response which makes us want to be mean with them as well. But this can escalate the situation and make it worse. Mindfulness enables you to bring your attention to the present moment and be aware of your thoughts and emotions. This will help you to stop panicking and take control simply by focusing on your breath.
11. Walk away
“Don’t let negative and toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and kick them out.” – Robert Tew
Sometimes you can’t understand or reach out to the other person as they are too far gone and despite your best efforts they will keep attacking you. So it’s best to maintain your distance in such cases. You don’t need to apologize or be nice unnecessarily. You simply need to walk away. You can always control yourself.
Here are some other things you need to keep in mind when dealing with a negative and mean person:
12. Remain calm at all times
13. Show respect towards the other person
14. Refrain from judging the mean person
15. Understand what they are asking for
16. Don’t be defensive
17. Do not demand conformity or compliance
18. Apologize only if you need to
19. Look around for help
20. It’s best not to try to convince the mean person
21. Avoid smiling or laughing at their face
22. Follow your gut instincts
23. Do not resort to anger
24. Learn to let it go and not feel stressed
25. Keep physical distance from them
26. Be flexible in your approach
27. Set clear boundaries and limits
28. Appreciate yourself for going through this uncomfortable experience
Winning over a mean person
“Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you, and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too.” – Will Smith
Now that you have some idea about what may drive a mean person to be negative and toxic, hopefully, you realize that it’s not about you. In most of the cases, it’s never your fault and their meanness is mostly a reflection of their own corrupted thinking or flaw unless you have done something significant to trigger them. Mean people will always find some reason, no matter how minor, to react and release their pain, anger, and negativity.
So it is crucial that you don’t take it personally. Understand that you do not deserve such treatment or behavior and it’s not your fault. This will help you to protect your emotional and mental well being and give you the strength to deal with the toxic person.
The best thing you can do to deal with them is not engaged or get involved. You can always choose to walk away and not react to their negativity. They are already suffering internally and they will face further consequences for their behavior sooner or later. You don’t need to take revenge or fight fire with fire.
You simply need to protect yourself and take this experience as an opportunity to grow into a better person.