Why you need to free yourself
The process of cutting ties on all levels of your energy and awareness is a crucial step in removing any energetic cords that you share with the narcissist. This is the only way your soul can move on towards healing. Not cutting cords often results in getting stuck in a low frequency cycle where the same disappointing events keep happening repeatedly. Unresolved energy ties will attract you to people, places, and events that resonate with the frequency of the emotional trauma you experienced with the narcissist. So, when you do enter into another relationship, you will have a tendency to project onto your new relationship all of the emotional pain you’ve stored from the one with the narcissist.
While this concept may seem overwhelming there are ways to protect yourself from psychic hoovering so you can close the chapter and move on towards healing and happier relationships – with yourself and others.
Ways to protect yourself
- If you haven’t blocked and deleted the narcissist from your phone, now’s the time to do it. Anything else only leaves you vulnerable to their hoovering, psychic and otherwise. If you share children with your ex, change your cell phone number and have them contact you by landline or email. Use a supervised email system if necessary, such as Our Family Wizard.
- Perform a cord-cutting ceremony at least once a week until the energetic ties are gone.
- Smudge your home to cleanse it of negative energies and memories.
- Consider purchasing crystals that are specific to psychic protection, such as: Black Tourmaline, Amethyst, Hematite, and Tiger Eye.
- Try dabbing some lavender or sandalwood essential oil on the back of your neck for cleansing and protection (if you have sensitive skin, make sure to blend with a carrier oil first).
For those of you who are afraid of the finality of cutting energetic ties with the narcissist – it doesn’t necessarily mean you shouldn’t love the person anymore or no longer care about them. The process is meant to cut the dysfunctional, traumatic cords that you share with the other person. Although you should still maintain No Contact for obvious reasons, you can still care for your toxic ex, but you should do so from a distance.
Once you begin healing the core wounds that bound you to the narcissist, you will find that your attachment to them will get weaker over time and you will eventually become empowered enough to release them completely.
Copyright © 2016 Kim Saeed and Let Me Reach. All Rights Reserved
Kim Saeed is the author of the Amazon best-selling book, How to Do No Contact Like a Boss!, as well as her free eBook, 10 Essential Survivor Secrets to Liberate Yourself from Narcissistic Abuse. In 2013, she founded Let Me Reach, which is an education company that teaches people to thrive who are contemplating, moving through, or moving on after No Contact.