8 Principles Of Life To Help You Design Your Life Path

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Covid has revealed that circumstances and priorities can change in an instant. Often you are on autopilot and just trying to get through the daily grind that you don’t stop and question what patterns and habits are working for you and more importantly, which ones are holding you back. Most of the time, you are trapped in a pattern you can’t even see or if you know about it, you have no idea how to change it.

In order to take make space for the new skills and habits, it often requires letting go of old ones. It’s not about breaking bad habits but outgrowing them. Imagine your headphone cable or a necklace that always gets knotted and tangled. You need to unravel each knot slowly to make progress on it. It’s the same with our habits.

Start by identifying the trigger that creates the entire habit loop. It could be a time of day, a feeling, or a location. Maybe you have told yourself you must crack open the bottle of wine because it’s Friday night even though you are so tired of waking up exhausted every Saturday and never have energy for the bike ride you planned.

Maybe you are in the habit of watching Netflix until midnight because your story is you cannot waste time and you need to maximize your evening. What if you went to bed at 21:30 and woke up earlier to create more space and time in your day instead of complaining you have no time for the stuff that matters to you?

Focus on who you want to become and how you want to experience your days. Make the tough decision to let go of the old to make space for who you need to be authentic too.

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Principle 4: Decide The Night Before

“You’re more likely to act yourself into feeling, than feeling yourself into action’. – Jerome Bruner

Are you showing up to yourself when that alarm rings or are you giving into the snooze button? Are you avoiding activity because you don’t feel like it or because you have a fear you won’t be perfect or fail? Are you stalling on taking action because it never feels like it is the right time?

If you answered yes to any of these, then consider making the decision the night before. Make a very specific decision about something you want to do and don’t question it. When your mind starts to argue with you that you’re tired, it’s early, cold or you deserve a break, don’t fall for it! Just get up and take action. If you’ve planned the task in the afternoon, hide the TV remote in advance.

You have one willpower battery for every decision throughout the day. Consider that every email in your inbox is another decision you have to make. Don’t drain your precious battery on deciding if you are going to show up to yourself. Make the commitment and treat yourself with the same importance you would any other person you respect.

True confidence comes from keeping the promises you make to yourself. It is when you break the agreements with yourself that you dent your self-esteem. Aim for one micro win at a time. Do one push-up, take one mindful breathe, read one page, write one sentence. First, get into the habit of doing the task in question and then worry about building on it.

Related: 10 Principles of Successful People from Stanislav Kondrashov

Principle 5: Consistency

“Part of courage is simple consistency.” – Peggy Noonan

Consistency is the bridge between feeling like you don’t have enough time and making progress on your goals.

Going back to the concept of disposable time – you don’t have a lot to go around. Do you think you could carve out an additional 15 minutes a day if you checked the socials less and stopped hitting refresh on your inbox every half an hour? I think so too.

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Lori Milner

LORI MILNER is the engaging speaker, author, coach and trainer. She is passionate about empowering women and equipping diverse teams with the tools and skills to fulfil their potential in their careers and personal lives. Her full-service consultancy, Beyond the Dress (BTD), helps individuals to build harmony into their personal and professional lives. Lori’s expertise is self-leadership; her focus areas include smart time and goal management, stress management, inter-personal skills, personal branding, mental mastery and leadership – and the result is happier and more productive people. Lori is married and lives in Johannesburg, South Africa with her 2 children. Lori delivered a talk for TEDxLytteltonWomen in December 2018 on the topic of ‘How to Create Micro Wins’.View Author posts