5. Don’t give anyone power over you.
We tend to allow our energy to be influenced by those who appear to have power over us: parents, teachers, bosses, authority figures, etcetera. If someone in authority is having a bad day and spews it on us, we don’t hesitate to accept it, or maybe we even allow these people to dictate how we feel about ourselves.
When you remember that everyone is a reflection of your own consciousness, it is easy to see that no one ever has power over you. They only have the power that you give to them through your thoughts beliefs and actions.
The more you own your power, the more control you will have over your vibration – and not take on energy that does not belong to you.
6. Let go of thinking that you know better.
When we think that we know better and we try to change others, we instantly allow their energy to infiltrate ours. If you don’t want anyone to affect your energy, then it is important to allow everyone their own experiences and their own choices. Don’t even have opinions about their opinions.
In trying to convince someone of your “know-how,” you are likely to compromise your own energy and boost energy infiltration. Remember how you feel is your most important asset – sacrifice it for nothing and no one if you want to prevent energy infiltration.
7. Stop reacting to others.
Are there people in your life who attempt to get their energy through drama? In other words, they try to invoke negative emotional responses from you, in order to “get energy.” Maybe you are even doing this unconsciously to others?
The moment you react, you give your power away and you also accept the negative energy of the person causing you to react.
In order to be angry, resentful, jealous, etcetera, you must lower your vibration, and as soon as you are an emotional match to the other person, their energy infiltrates yours.
If you want to own your energy and stay positive, it is just not worth reacting. The cost is too great. This doesn’t mean that you cannot speak your truth and set boundaries in a way that supports you and the relationship. This can be done from a space of clarity and compassion.
8. Don’t take sides.
Others may want to use your energy to support their cause, but if it is not about you, don’t make it about you. Allowing yourself to get in the middle of another’s squabble or cause, when you know it doesn’t concern you, is basically a waste of your valuable energy.
You can support others without getting in the middle, and without allowing your energy to be poisoned by another’s issues.
9. Do not accept blame.
Even if someone blames you or is angry at you, you don’t need to take on their energy. My five-year-old grandson spilled his ice cream in the car and blamed me because I hit a bump in the road. We talked about him blaming me so that he could feel better about the loss of the ice cream, but he really felt worse.
People blame us all the time for things that are out of our control. Just because someone blames you, doesn’t mean you have to take it on. If you are responsible, be responsible and rectify the situation, but don’t allow yourself to be someone else’s scapegoat. You do not even need to react to the blame – just let it pass.
10. Say “No” to people pleasing.
If you are a people pleaser, you are likely very good at giving your energy away and therefore being affected by other’s energy. Because people pleasers put others before themselves, they are not responsible for their energy and therefore they become energy sponges for everyone whom they are trying to please.
It is not your job to please the world. In fact, you would do much better at pleasing others if you first pleased yourself, putting your own needs and wants in the first place. It is okay to say, “No” and set boundaries that create a safe haven for you to be responsible for your own energy and prevent energy infiltration.