7. Cultivate Gratitude.
A yoga teacher once told me, “Happiness does not lead to gratitude. Gratitude leads to happiness.” This is also true of internal happiness and self love. What are you grateful for about yourself today?
8. Practice Compassion And Forgiveness.
Yes, it’s important to practice this with others. But can you also practice it internally? You are human. You will fall short. You will make mistakes.
But more importantly, what is the story you tell yourself about your mistakes? Can you cultivate non-judgmental awareness inwardly, and forgive yourself (while also staying accountable) on a daily, even moment to moment basis?
9. Learn To Laugh At Yourself.
Going along the lines of self-compassion, try to incorporate humor into your internal narrative. Instead of, “Why can’t I do anything right?” or “I hate my body,” I invite you to laugh at your humanness.
Almost all of us are striving for this unrealistic goal of perfection. The fact of the matter is that we connect through our imperfections—our humanity.
10. Be Of Service.
Every time we step outside of ourselves and into the arena of helping another, in any capacity, we tell ourselves that we have something to offer—that we are enough, and that we can make a difference.
Be mindful not to slip into caretaking and trying to save others; we can only control our own actions and reactions. But we can show up, be a light, instill hope, and be helpful. And in doing that, we set ourselves free.
These are 10 simple steps, but as humans beings, we have a tendency to complicate the hell out of them. I encourage you to talk about these steps in therapy, allow others to help you deconstruct whatever is blocking you from self love, and try to connect with people who bring you closer to your ideal, rather than those who keep you living in cognitive dissonance.
And, as always, remember: You are worthy. You are enough. You are whole.
Written By Hannah Rose Originally Appeared On PsychologyToday