This not only leaves you feeling empty and exhausted, but teaches others that they don’t have to take responsibility for what they do—you will.
5. You’ve found yourself saying, “I can do it,” or “I’ve got this,” rather than properly delegating the load.
Delegating is definitely not your strong suit.
You’d rather do everything yourself than rely on someone else. But this makes people lose their sense of drive and the load all falls on you—a sure sign you’ll end up being the fixer when everything falls apart.
And here’s how to avoid becoming the ‘rescuer’:
If you don’t want to end up being the savior, it’s all about setting your standards from the start. Communicate your wants, needs, and ideas before fully committing to a relationship. Be transparent about what’s important to you and make sure that the person you fall for is capable of carrying his or her own weight.
While you don’t have to hold people at arm’s length, you do have to be clear and confident. It’s not wrong to care about people, but you shouldn’t have to save, fix, or rescue them. They are capable of doing that for themselves.
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