18. “It’s an open office.”
I can’t have my beloved privacy when I work? Damn. Where are does friendly partition walls that they have in the movies? This is a tough one for introverts. They need anything and everything that can minimize conversation opportunities with others around them.
17. “I’m not ready to leave yet.”
This is one of the most cumbersome phrases that scare introverts. “You said we’d be here for only 2 hours!” we scream in our heads as we proceed to the corner of the room for the umpteenth time. If you say we’re going to be at the gathering for only 2 hours, I’m counting down from the moment we get there.
16. “Since no one is raising their hand, I’ll call on students randomly.”
This is a phrase that many introverted students have to deal with on a daily basis. The effort it takes to avoid eye contact and draw away the attention of the teacher is not an easy task of any sort. Once the teacher’s wrath has been avoided, only then shall I breathe with ease.
15. “It’s a group project.”
This is even worse than team-building activities. Group projects in school were either really good or went really bad. There really wasn’t an in between. It’s a shame that I always had to end up with the douchebags and quiet girls. Terrible combination. The best plan of execution is always putting it in the hands of the smart introvert that never talked. Yes, the quiet kid in the group. Leave them alone for a week and put up a presentation for the whole class pretending like you know what you’re talking about. Just don’t let the quiet kid do the presentation too.
14. “We have plans tonight, remember?”
I thought you forgot. I hoped you wouldn’t bring it up. “Huh? What plans?” is probably the last resort for most introverts. This is one of those phrases that scare introverts because they try so hard to avoid plans that have been made even if it means holding onto hope till the last moment. You never know how relieving a cancel of plans can be for an introvert.
13. “How ’bout this weather?”
What about the weather? You got something to say about it that I don’t want to hear about? Oh, here we go again. Subtle nods is all you’re going to get from me unless you don’t want a thunderstorm of anxiety raining down from my end. Small talk is something introverts are simply not good at. Accept that fact and deal with it.
12. “I invited some friends over. I hope that’s okay!”
No that’s not okay. What if those friends don’t like me? And What if they think I’m awkward and lame? What if we don’t talk for the whole night? I thought it was only me tonight. This can be really frustrating for introverts, especially if they aren’t prepared at all. Even the thought of having more people over for the night can be extremely energy draining.
11. “Tell me about yourself.”
What exactly do you want to know? Can we be a little more specific here? I can either tell you about my achievements and glory days or tell you how boring I actually am. Either way I won’t be as entertaining as you expect me to be. This is one of those phrases that scare introverts just because their thoughts go haywire and lose control as soon as someone expects an introduction from them.
10. “Everyone will be there!”
Everyone? Like everyone everyone? No thankyou. Maybe I’ll just get some rest for today. Even the thought of seeing everyone sends chills down my spine down to my heels. Introverts are intimidated when they are in the company of people they didn’t expect. They tend to imagine every possible scenario when they know how many people are going to be at the event. When you tell them that everyone’s going to be there, you’re just sending a whole storm of thought clouds into their heads. Not a good idea.
9. “Let’s go around the room and introduce ourselves.”
Did you just tell me to introduce myself? Chills. Who am I anyway? I’m just as lost as you are about me. I don’t even know myself well enough to give myself an introduction. Or do I know myself a little too well enough to not give you an introduction? This is going to be terribly awkward. I hope I don’t stutter or say something stupid or way off. Introductions are for the extroverts, I guess.
8. “Just ask her out!”
Easier said than done. Do you realize all the things that could go wrong? The modern dating system hasn’t been favorable for most introverts. Going up to a stranger and trying to impress them with conversational skills and wit isn’t an introverts strongest point. So a “just ask her out” won’t get that far. It takes more than just a nudge to get an introvert to talk to a potential partner.