9. They Recover Quickly From Negative Experiences.
People with secure attachments process their feelings so they are able to move on from negative experiences more quickly.
10. They Have A High Tolerance For Frustration.
They can tolerate frustrating circumstances and will be able to move forward in deciding what action if any to take in that situation. They are more capable of working through difficult times in a relationship.
11. They Are Confident In Their Abilities.
They know themselves well and are aware of their talents and abilities in a variety of skills and situations. They know their own worth in relationships.
12. They Manage And Regulate Stress.
Life is often very stressful. These people take care of their physical and emotional health so they are more able to manage stressful situations. They think through difficult moments before taking action.
13. They Quickly Recover From Failure.
Secure people understand that failure is an opportunity to learn from one’s mistakes. They are not defined by their failures and are more open to admitting when they are wrong. When things don’t go well in a relationship, they believe they can try again.
14. They Understand The Perspective Of The Other Person.
They are able to put themselves in the other person’s position without necessarily agreeing with them. If the other person feels heard and understood they are more likely to feel more open to hearing their partner’s point of view as well.
“The less attached you are, the more peaceful you are.” – Anonymous
What if you don’t have these traits? What if you lean more towards the other attachment styles?
Few people are fortunate enough to have grown up with parents who somehow already knew how to create emotionally secure attachments in their child. After all, parenting styles are usually passed down from generation to generation and are not taught in school.
But there are also individuals who learned the skills over time or with professional guidance. So don’t give up if you don’t have these personality traits.
Learn the skills that people with secure personality traits and practice them in healthy relationships.
Written By Susan Saint-Welch Originally Appeared On YourTango