How to be more personally responsible
So if you believe you need to take more personal responsibility but not really sure how to deal with the challenges, then here are a few beneficial ways to help you get started with accountability:
1. Identify how you avoid responsibility
We all avoid responsibilities at times. But all of us have unique patterns through which we bypass accountability. Recognize the triggers that lead to self-denial or blame shifting. Introspection and journaling for 10 minutes daily can help you understand what motivates you to avoid taking responsibility. Once you know the triggers, you can work on overcoming them.
2. Stop blaming others
“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.” – Robert Anthony
Yes, blaming someone else for your mistakes is super easy, but it also keeps you from improving yourself. Playing the blame game reinforces your victim mindset and stops you from bringing actual change to your environment. So instead of pointing fingers at others, pause, breathe deeply and take charge of your life by shifting your mentality to being a victor, not a victim.
3. No more complaining
“Excuses are monuments of nothingness, They build bridges to nowhere, Those of us who use these tools of incompetence, Seldom become anything but nothing at all.” – Unknown
Let’s face it, complaining about life and making excuses never got anyone anywhere. You can nag all you want and blame as many people as you like, but that won’t bring even an ounce of positive change to your life. Complaining traps your mind into thinking about what you don’t have instead of what you do have. This is known as the scarcity mindset. Studies have found that “a scarcity mindset affects neural mechanisms underlying goal-directed decision making.” This is why you need to shift your mentality towards an abundance mindset which makes you believe that there are adequate opportunities for you and drive you to be more responsible to tap into those opportunities.
Research shows that people with a growth mindset “are better able to bounce back from failures” than those who complain about what they don’t have. So the next time you observe yourself complaining, pause and change your thought process and perspective.
4. Develop self-awareness
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” – Joan Didion
Learn how to be more aware of your thoughts, emotions, behaviors and actions. This will enable you to make conscious choices that will drive you towards your goals. Self-awareness can not only help you take more personal responsibility, it can also help you build your self-esteem by accepting your flaws and imperfections. This will encourage you to work on your negative aspects and make you feel more empowered. So take intentional steps to become increasingly aware of your words & actions and their consequences.
5. Live mindfully
Mindfulness is the art of living in the present moment. Our negative emotions, such as anger, blame, shame, self-hatred and poor self-esteem lead to high levels of stress and anxiety. This can make us forget the fact that life is happening NOW. It is unfolding right this very moment. When you are too focused on how external factors are more powerful than you, you miss out on what life has to offer you at this very moment. Being mindful allows you to realize that only you can control your present. It helps you to accept what life offers you, both positive and negative, and make the best out of it. So take responsibility only for this moment so that you can redeem your past & build your future without feeling overwhelmed.
According to a 2012 study, mindfulness, the practice of bringing your attention to the current moment, helps to reduce stress, improve mental health, develops self-awareness & self-regulation & self-transcendence and “reduces biases related to self-processing.” A great way to be more mindful in life and exist in the present is to start practicing mindfulness meditation for 10 minutes daily.