Since we don’t want to introspect; the hidden things in our mind try to expose their presence through external circumstances and people. When we realize that the problem actually lies within us, the light of awareness illuminates those parts of our being, that our ego doesn’t allow us and others to see which will help us to overcome these traits.
Those parts that we are so used to hide should be cured and that is possible when we promise to be 100% honest to ourselves. If anger storms your mind, let yourself feel the anger, if fear approaches you, accept it.
The point is to be aware of these feelings without judging ourselves as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ because those emotions have invaded our minds. When we do this, only then we will be able to accept and love those parts of ourselves that we want to hide so badly.
It’s not easy to always consider ourselves as the ‘problem’ when we want to point fingers at others so much. But, the truth is, it is the most empowering thing. When we identify ourselves as the problem, finding the solution will be effortless because it lies within us.
If our ego is not allowing us to see the shady parts of our personality and that inspires us to see others in a bad light, we gain the power to turn the situation by just healing the parts of ourselves that identify and resonate with the same issues in them.
When it so happens that we begin to see ourselves in others around us, we start building an honest and true relationship with our own being. This helps us to give rise to awareness and makes us calm, confident, and accepting of every aspect of our personality. Creating a loving relationship with ourselves changes our perspective to all the external things. We start seeing the same positive traits which we have now been able to cultivate in our self. Those people or things which used to ignite a strong negative emotion in us will now be dealt with compassion and forgiveness.
We are truly able to heal our relationships with others and consequently change them for better when we change and our internal relationship— the relationship with our own being.
If you want to know more about what how you perceive others is a reflection of who you are as a person, then check this video out below: