7 – Love doesn’t always conquer all
Most Empaths hold these common beliefs about love and relationships:
Where there’s a will, there’s a way. Love conquers all. Everyone has some good in them and deserves the benefit of the doubt. If you want to be forgiven, you must forgive. The Ex didn’t have any family or friends, and now I’ve “abandoned” them, too. I wasn’t perfect, either.
These nuggets of insight might apply to other areas of life, but not to toxic relationships. Why? Because it gives Empaths another way to torture themselves.
It doesn’t matter if you were with your Ex for two, ten, or thirty years, it’s time to accept that you did everything within your power to salvage the relationship. The misguided fear that you could have done something differently is based on your toxic Ex having changed the goal posts continuously– and yes, it was deliberate. This explains why every single Empath believes there is something else they could have done to save the relationship. It’s a result of conditioning — and overwriting this belief will be part of your healing journey.
Living a healed, balanced, and happy life means accepting these painful truths, even though the Narcissist cannot. They can’t be healed because for that to happen, they’d first need to acknowledge they are wounded. Instead, Narcissists use fear, obligation, and guilt (FOG) to keep their targets perpetually catering to their every whim…and overlooking lies and broken promises.
Divorcing the Female Narcissist, Borderline or other Abuser
“Reactive Abuse” They Call You Abusive for Reacting To Their Abuse
Twenty Common Terms In The World Of Narcissism