Narcissists put on a good show, pretending to be enlightened and advanced in modern philosophies, but the truth about their close-minded dogmas is eventually discovered which profoundly shatters the Empath’s heart. Worse, once the relationship begins to sour, the narcissist typically mocks and ridicules the Empath for his or her views and theories.
4 – The narcissist is your soul mate, but not in the way you’d hoped
Urban dictionary defines soulmate as:
A person with whom you have an immediate connection the moment you meet — a connection so strong that you are drawn to them in a way you have never experienced before. As this connection develops over time, you experience a love so deep, strong and complex, that you begin to doubt that you have ever truly loved anyone prior. Your soulmate understands and connects with you in every way and on every level, which brings a sense of peace, calmness and happiness when you are around them.
Unfortunately, this is not the true definition of a soul mate. A soul mate’s true purpose is to bring all your wounds, fears, and insecurities to the surface so you can reconcile them. Don’t mistake this to mean that there is a healed future with the narcissist. They were only meant to be in your life for a season.
5 – The narcissist is not the “runner” in what you thought was a twin flame relationship
Many empaths mistake the dysfunctional undercurrents of a relationship with a narcissist as those of the twin flame runner/chaser dynamic.
Narcissists take advantage of this mistaken belief, using it as a great window of opportunity to disappear from the Empath so they can groom other supply or generally live life on their own terms, which includes pretending to be in a committed, progressive relationship, all while they secretly live life as a single person behind the Empath’s back.
Narcissists excuse themselves for this covert behavior by claiming they love the Empath too much and are frightened by the depth of their love, hence why they feel inclined to “run”.
6 – Even if you and the narcissist made contracts together before this lifetime, you must accept the necessity to move on without them
In the spiritual scheme of things, many people believe narcissists are put in our lives to help us evolve into healed, cosmically aware individuals.
While that may be true, we must recognize when it comes time to sever those ties and vows with the narcissist, which feels devastating for any Empathic individual with strong moral codes. Whereas Empaths want to soothe the narcissist’s hurts and help them feel secure, the narcissist simply wants to siphon the Empath’s compassionate energy like fuel for an engine.
Even after the relationship ends, the energetic ties remain, despite the amount of time that elapses. And even though you may be apart from them now, you’re still deeply bonded to them energetically. This can drain your energy, as well as cause symptoms of depression and hopelessness. Therefore, it’s critical to cut the energetic ties with the narcissist so you can move on.