Unfortunately, this is not the true definition of a soul mate. A soul mate’s true purpose is to bring all your wounds, fears, and insecurities to the surface so you can reconcile them. Don’t mistake this to mean that there is a healed future with the narcissist. They were only meant to be in your life for a season.
Looking to know more about the realities of a relationship between an empath and narcissist? Read The Empath, The Narcissist And The Brutal Reality Of Their Toxic Relationship
5. The narcissist is not the “runner” in what you thought was a twin flame relationship.
Many empaths mistake the dysfunctional undercurrents of a relationship with a narcissist as those of the twin flame runner/chaser dynamic.
Narcissists take advantage of this mistaken belief, using it as a great window of opportunity to disappear from the Empath so they can groom other supply or generally live life on their own terms, which includes pretending to be in a committed, progressive relationship, all while they secretly live life as a single person behind the Empath’s back.
Narcissists excuse themselves for this covert behavior by claiming they love the Empath too much and are frightened by the depth of their love, hence why they feel inclined to “run”.
6. Even if you and the narcissist made contracts together before this lifetime, you must accept the necessity to move on without them.
In the spiritual scheme of things, many people believe narcissists are put in our lives to help us evolve into healed, cosmically aware individuals.
While that may be true, we must recognize when it comes time to sever those ties and vows with the narcissist, which feels devastating for any Empathic individual with strong moral codes. Whereas Empaths want to soothe the narcissist’s hurts and help them feel secure, the narcissist simply wants to siphon the Empath’s compassionate energy like fuel for an engine.
Even after the relationship ends, the energetic ties remain, despite the amount of time that elapses. And even though you may be apart from them now, you’re still deeply bonded to them energetically. This can drain your energy, as well as cause symptoms of depression and hopelessness. Therefore, it’s critical to cut the energetic ties with the narcissist so you can move on.
Want to know more about the truths of narcissists? Read Why Empath and Narcissists Are Attracted To Each Other
7. Love doesn’t always conquer all.
Most Empaths hold these common beliefs about love and relationships:
Where there’s a will, there’s a way. Love conquers all. Everyone has some good in them and deserves the benefit of the doubt. If you want to be forgiven, you must forgive. The Ex didn’t have any family or friends, and now I’ve “abandoned” them, too. I wasn’t perfect, either.
These nuggets of insight might apply to other areas of life, but not to toxic relationships. Why? Because it gives Empaths another way to torture themselves.
It doesn’t matter if you were with your Ex for two, ten, or thirty years, it’s time to accept that you did everything within your power to salvage the relationship. The misguided fear that you could have done something differently is based on your toxic Ex having changed the goalposts continuously– and yes, it was deliberate. This explains why every single Empath believes there is something else they could have done to save the relationship. It’s a result of conditioning — and overwriting this belief will be part of your healing journey.
Living a healed, balanced, and happy life means accepting these painful truths, even though the Narcissist cannot. They can’t be healed because for that to happen, they’d first need to acknowledge they are wounded. Instead, Narcissists use fear, obligation, and guilt (FOG) to keep their targets perpetually catering to their every whim…and overlooking lies and broken promises.