“We have to allow ourselves to be loved by the people who really love us, the people who really matter. Too much of the time, we are blinded by our own pursuits of people to love us, people that don’t even matter, while all that time we waste and the people who do love us have to stand on the sidewalk and watch us beg in the streets! It’s time to put an end to this. It’s time for us to let ourselves be loved.”
― C. JoyBell C.
One of the most enchanting feelings we experience in our lives is love. No matter how hurt we get, we just can’t stop ourselves from falling in love. It is a beautiful feeling, which makes us dream, it is a feeling which gives us the energy to live but it is also very complicated. No matter how much we achieve in our lives, our happiness remains incomplete without getting loved back.
Who doesn’t love the feeling of getting loved back by the person we love? Isn’t it such a bliss to have someone who accepts us the way we are? With all our flaws and imperfections, with all our insecurities and vulnerabilities? But life is not always fair and human beings have complex psychology. In a world full of negativities, fake emotions and lies, finding true love is one of the rarest of blessings we can have. But how can we be so sure that we have found ‘The One’? You might think that it’s really difficult to judge but we have the easiest solution to this.
All you need to do is ask your partner, ‘ Do you love me or do you love the idea of me?’
The question might seem to be very simple but the answer is not just an ‘yes’ or a ‘no.’ The question measures whether your partner loves you for the person you are with all your weirdness and flaws or they just enjoy that someone like you is with them and they will try and make the relationship work out.
If ‘of course I love you’ is the answer, then just relax. Your partner loves you for the person you are. When asked, they will easily talk about the things they love about you, your qualities which make them attracted towards you so much that they are willing to go through all the turmoil, ups and downs of the relationship just to be with you. Congratulations! You have found your true love.
But if your partner tells you that they love you because they love the feeling when they are with you, then it’s a warning sign. Remember, when a person is saying this, it means all they want is to get loved by someone and to be pampered, complimented and treated in a very special way. They don’t love you for the person you are; they just love to be in the relationship with a romantic partner.
If your significant other tells you they love you because you are extremely attractive or hot or you lead a very cool lifestyle, then it’s also a red alert. Such people usually have the tendency to treat you like a trophy, showing off to their peers. They are not bothered about your emotions or the person you are.
The last one of this category of fake people will tell you that you are one in a million. This might sound extremely romantic but you need to be practical in this case. There are millions of people in this world and you are definitely not the best of them. This ‘one in a million’ story is nothing but to flatter you. If your partner says that there are millions of people better than you but among them, they are choosing you, then that’s a reflection of true love. Be sure to understand the difference between ‘ you are one in a million’ and ‘ I am choosing you among millions of people’.
Love isn’t meant to be fakes. It needs to be real. You need someone who will love you after seeing you in your good and bad phases of life. They will love you every single day in whatever condition you are in…without make up, with scars, with tears. They will appreciate your love and commitment towards them, for putting up with their flaws too. No matter how many fights you have, the two of you should remain together at the end of the day.