I know that when my ex-husband finally broke up with me, he was able to lead the life he wanted. He wasn’t held back by my depression and my paralyzing social anxiety. While I was very sad that he left, devastated in fact, I know that his moving on was the best thing for both of us because he was able to find happiness and I was able to have the space to do the work that I needed to do to get well.
Knowing why it’s okay to break up with someone who is depressed will give you the freedom to make a decision about next steps.
The important thing here is that if your person is not willing to do what they need to do to get past the depression, then there’s no reason for you to stay.
They are not your responsibility, your staying is enabling them to not deal with their depression, you trying to fix them will only make things worse and they need to do this work themselves.
Most importantly, you have a life to lead. Don’t let your life be bogged down by someone who doesn’t want to help themselves.
If you are lucky enough that your depressed person is willing to do the work that they need to do to get better, then by all means stay. But remember, a promise isn’t action and if they say they are going to do something but don’t, that’s another reason why it’s okay to break up with someone who is depressed.
If they don’t do the work, why should you?
I know you can do this. I know you want to be happy. And that’s on you…
Written By: Mitzi Bockmann
Originally Appeared On: Let Your Dreams Begin