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The solution to not becoming overly attached or possessive is to focus on strengthening your self-esteem while addressing and releasing fears, including the fear of abandonment, which can cause the need to cling.
Working with a skilled relationship therapist or coach can be productive. Also, you can practice the three tantric techniques that I described above. These will help you develop autonomy and grounding. Being willing to surrender the tendency to overly attached in favor of healthily bonding will allow you to have more joyous and pleasurable relationships without the pain of obsession.
(Excerpt from Dr. Judith Orloff’s national bestseller The Power of Surrender: Let Go and Energize Your Relationships, Success, and Well-Being)
Being obsessed or overly clingy will only harm your relationship in the long run, and even lead to a horrible breakup. Be positive and have faith in your love and partner. Calm your mind and try to get rid of all the anxious and negative thoughts that tell you, that you will be abandoned. Love yourself enough to be in a healthy relationship.
If you want to know more about the nature of obsessive relationships, and what you can do to tackle it, then check out this video below: