What Not To Say (And What You Should Say) To A Person With Depression


4. Would you like to talk about what you’re going through?

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Being willing to listen is great – just make sure you don’t pressure them into talking if they’re not ready to.


5. I don’t quite understand what you’re going through, but I’m here to support you anyway.

If you don’t understand, then that’s OK. Just say so and be there for them – instead of acting as you do.


6. I’m sorry you’re in pain.

This is warm and compassionate and shows you’re on their side.


7. I’ve suffered from depression myself.

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If this is actually true – and you’re comfortable saying it – then this can be a great disclosure to make, as it helps the sufferer realize that they’re not alone.


8. Have you made an appointment to see a doctor?

Such a response implicitly acknowledges the person’s pain and also encourages them to seek help – both very good things.


9. This must be very hard for you, but you’re going to get through this.

Reinforcing a positive message can give the sufferer hope.


10. Is there something we can do together to take your mind off it?

Try to encourage them to take part in joyful activities.


How about you? What are the best and worst things you’ve heard when you’ve told someone that you’re suffering from depression?

Written by Danny Baker
Originally appeared in The Good Men Project

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What Not To Say (And What You Should Say) To A Person With Depression

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