Why He Won’t Let You Go Even If He Doesn’t Want A Relationship

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This man is a good guy but he just didn’t understand that, for women, sex is about connection and having sex with her was a signal that he might be coming back to her. Once he understood that having sex with her was leading her to believe they had a chance, he stopped doing so. He wasn’t happy to be going without sex but he knew that he didn’t want to lead her on.

So, when your guy reappears, does he do so for sex? Think about it.

Read 5 Reasons Why Men Lose Interest After Sex

4. He Needs You.

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One thing that’s very interesting about breakups is that one of the reasons they are so difficult to stick to is because of the habits that we have created in our relationships.

By habits I mean those things that you do together regularly. Maybe it’s Wednesday night movies, or Saturday trips to museums or lunchtime meetings at the sushi place. These are things do you guys enjoyed doing together. When you are no longer together, those spaces and time are left empty and might be difficult to fill.

He also might miss the things that you do for him – washing his clothes or making his dinner. Keeping the fridge stocked and toothpaste under the sink. Having to do those things on his own is difficult and he knows that if he keeps you around, you will handle them.

So, if your guy keeps coming back, it might be because he can’t break those habits and because he needs you. Because they have been so ingrained in the fabric of his life that he doesn’t want to let them go.


5. He Has Hope.

Of course, sometimes guys won’t let you go because they genuinely want to work things out. He generally wants to make a life with you. And when that happens, and you want to work things out too, I encourage you to greet him with open arms. And caution.

It is important if your guy comes back because he wants to work things out, that you guys talk about what went wrong in your relationship. That you both completely understand any issues that might have developed over time and that you make a plan, together, to do things differently.

You can build a relationship by doing things differently. History repeats itself over and over until we take steps to make a change. Take a good hard look at your relationship, see what went wrong, and work together to make those things right.

You can do it.

Read What It Means When You Keep Breaking Up And Getting Back Together


The Question Of Why He Won’t Let You Go Even If He Doesn’t Want A Relationship Is Incredibly Hurtful, Confusing, And Frustrating.

If your guy disappears from your life, it’s easier to get over him and to move on but if he keeps showing up at your door with his handsome face you’ll just get sucked back in and the pain will continue.

So, take a good look at what happens when your guy comes back. Is he doing it because he feels lonely or because he can’t break the habit or because he just wants to get laid? Is he feeling insecure about his place in the world and needs you to help him feel better about himself? Or perhaps he really genuinely wants to try to work it out.

Ask these questions before you open that door. Knowing the answers, and acting on them, could prevent a whole lot of pain.

Many woman find themselves in a limbo between courtship and relationship, especially if the man of you dreams are not ready to let you go but doesn’t want a committed relationship either. If you want to know more about why your man is not ready to let you go despite not wanting to be in a relationship with you, then you might like this video:


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Mitzi Bockmann

I am a NYC based Certified Life Coach and mental health advocate. My writing has been published on The Huffington Post, Prevention, Psych Central, Pop Sugar, MSN and The Good Man Project, among others. I work with all kinds of people to help them go from depressed and overwhelmed to confident and happy in their relationships and in their world.View Author posts