Rule 4# Tell yourself the bitter truth.
When you already know the truth, that this relationship is all about fun and not about being committed and dedicated to each other. Learn to swallow the hard pill.
The more you deny the truth, wanting to avoid it as far as possible you are denying your own mental clarity.
Are you settling for being in this arrangement of almost relationship to satisfy the need of your partner?
Or do you genuinely want this almost relationship?
Are you secretly in love with the other person, but pretending to not care?
Telling yourself a lie will only break you apart later in the relationship. Ask yourself what your needs are. Are you settling for something lesser than you wish for or deserve?
Rule 5# Keep your self-respect intact.
Just because you are in an almost relationship, doesn’t mean you sacrifice your self-respect, your independence or your needs.
If you feel anything else than what you deserve to feel, always feel free to walk away.
There is no need to compromise your feelings, sabotage your self-esteem, or tolerate unhealthy treatment from the other person, merely on the pretext of the relationship.
Do not allow a temporary person to make permanent damage to your self-confidence and self-esteem. Settle for the one that deserves you, respects you, values you and is aiming for a long-term relationship with you.
What will you be left with, if the other person leaves you on the basis of nothing at all?
Self-respect is the answer.
Never violate the sacredness of your individual self-respect. – Theodore Parker
Rule 6# Do not engage in typical “relationship activities”.
If you have planned it to be temporary and non-committal, do not engage in activities that typically committed people do.
Trust me, it’s worse than playing with fire. One day these fun fantasies of making a family with the other person will be your worst nightmare.
Avoid daydreaming about a future with your partner, fantasizing about having children with them, living-in with them, giving them expensive gifts and emotionally investing in them. Know what your values are and take decisions accordingly.
One simple thing to remember when not trying to get into a messy situation with your partner in a casual relationship is: if you are planning to get attached, never ever get into a casual relationship.
There are lots of people out there looking for authentic, emotional intimacy with someone. If you believe that casual relationship is not your cup of tea, never engage in one just for its advantages. In such a case, the degree to which an almost relationship can psychologically damage you is beyond comprehension. If you are not prepared for the loss, it’s wise to never involve in one.
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