If you choose to make assumptions, blame that victim in some way for what occurred, judge them, blame their mental health etc – and that victim is telling the truth – you are abusing them further – even if unintentionally.
We live in a society where it is ‘innocent until proven guilty’.
And also where is a victim is ‘lying/exaggerating’ unless they can prove the abuse 100%’.
There are many who will argue we need to have innocent until proven guilty and I agree, we do.
But, in the case of abuse victims – please know – this abuses and re-traumatises them repeatedly.
And ‘not guilty’ or not having enough evidence to prove the abuse 100% – does not mean the victim was lying. Or that the abuser is innocent – but society wants to view it that way.
And regardless of all the arguments for all this……..bottom line, it is devastating and is more abuse to the victim.
I know this, because I have been there. Too many times.
~ Lilly Hope Lucario
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