Are you fed up being around toxic people the way I was? Then you are on the right path with this curation. Sometimes we choose to be around toxic people knowingly or unknowingly. Sometimes the situations and circumstances choose us to be around toxic people where we feel helpless by thinking that there is no other option than being prey to toxicity.
“There are people who bring you down by just BEING THEM.” – Malebo Sephodi
Have you ever thought about how toxic people’s behavior, views, and opinions impact us emotionally and mentally in an adverse way?
We feel stressed…irritated…tensed…frustrated…agitated. Ultimately, this toxicity hampers the quality of life. Toxic views, opinions, and behavior shake up our thinking patterns, belief systems, mindsets, and inner core personalities in a negative way.
Hence, I decided to sit and jot down a few points that would help us all make our “choose to stay away from toxic people” work easier. Let’s start then…
How To Stay Away From Toxic People?
1. Build a “Solid Wall” around you
This wall is nothing but our strong identity among people. Identity of us after working on inner strength. Sometimes our good nature is taken for granted. We get bullied by other people when we show our vulnerable side to unworthy folks.
Therefore, develop a strong urge for setting up an “Identity Wall” that would protect you from falling prey to the dirty games of toxic people. How about raising your vibrations than lowering your standards?
2. “Self-Respect” is your Priority
“You need not lower your standards just because others can’t raise theirs.”
If you don’t respect yourself, probably people would not respect you back. Do not try to please everyone around. We often try to make everyone happy to feel validated, approved, liked, and loved. This trap backfires many times.
Set a healthy boundary for every bond and when you feel somebody is crossing that boundary then that will be the point to stand up for yourself by being vocal and straightforward about what has been bothering you.
Maintaining clear communication, putting forward your point transparently, setting a healthy boundary, and being vocal about your concerns would help a lot to let people know your set limits. Perhaps, many of them will not even dare to cross the limits set by you once they know how firm you are about those healthy boundaries.
3. Learn to “Move On” rather than Clinging
I want you to ask one question yourself and come up with a genuine answer given by your inner soul. “Do you really need to acknowledge every person’s presence in your life without thinking much about what they are contributing to the betterment of you?“
Not every person contributes something in your life that is for your good. Recognize these alerts well in advance to strategize how you can deal with unwanted people, diplomatically. It would be the best idea to think about those bonds that are no longer serving the best in your life.
We often forget to set up filters in our physical life that would separate unwanted people from us by keeping genuine connections. The same goes with the amount of information we encounter every day. We usually take in all the information that is bombarded on us by the outer world without filtering and verifying whether the information is true, valid, or holds any practical grounds, or not. We forget to have a “reality check” system in place.
Hence, it’s a conscious habit of setting up filters in our minds as well as in physical life to keep genuine people and discard fake ones.