4. Don’t do it slowly.
I have a friend who, when he no longer wants to be with someone, doesn’t tell them straight out. Instead, he stops texting and calling as much, he doesn’t respond regularly when they reach out, he spends time with them but not to the extent that he used to.
He says he does so because he doesn’t want to hurt them, but I would argue that it is actually easier on him and that this actually hurts them more. Much like pulling off a band-aid, ending a relationship quickly and decisively will help your person recover and move on more quickly.
Another thing that many people do is they yo-yo. They want out, but they don’t want to hurt their person and they are worried that they will get bored and lonely, so they have a hard time breaking up with them for good. They break up and then they come back, things are okay for a while and then it all falls apart again. Doing this over and over and over isn’t good for anyone and will definitely lead to heartbreak.
5. Don’t move on too quickly.
One of the worst things that can happen is when someone breaks up with you and the next day you see them all over social media with a new partner.
Immediately, you question everything about yourself and your relationship. You wonder if your person was cheating on you the whole time. You wonder why you weren’t good enough for that person, why they had to go looking for someone else. You assume you have been lied to and you are humiliated and you feel betrayed by your person for flaunting this new person to all of your friends.
Even if you do have someone waiting in the wings, make sure that you leave a respectable amount of time before you bring that person out into the open. Yes, you want the world to know that you are in love, but have enough respect for your ex to give them some time to move on and to not disrespect them in the eyes of the world.
I know that you want to find find ways to break up with someone so you don’t break their heart. Having respect for your ex and your relationship is the key to doing this successfully.
It is possible to find nice ways to break up with someone so you don’t break their heart completely.
Of course, every time we are broken up with, there is pain, but you can control how much pain there is and how quickly your ex can move forward.
It is essential that you don’t just disappear, that you stay and face them. You must be honest with them but also kind. You must end it decisively and you must take care to respect them and not flaunt a new relationship right away.
Breaking up is hard to do but doing it in a way that is respectful and kind will not only help your ex recover more quickly, but it will also help you feel good about how you ended it and move on without guilt. It is hard not to break someone’s heart when you break up with them, but finding kind ways to do so will help their broken heart mend faster.
You can do this!