Nice Guys Finish Last because they are Manipulative Liars

Nice Guys Finish Last because they are Manipulative Liars

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Have you ever done things for her to use as ammunition later on?

In other words, you knew you wanted sex on a certain night and so you did a ton of nice things for her all week to (in your mind) guaranteed sex on the night that you wanted it to happen.

While there’s nothing wrong with doing romantic things for your partner, if your intention is a manipulative one, she will pick up on it. I don’t say this hyperbolically- your intentions will clearly show themselves in your actions. The expectant energy in your eye contact… the overly eager angle of your stance as you stand next to her… I could go on. Trust me, she’ll feel it. So don’t do it.

5. Being Avoidant Of Confrontation

Manipulative people avoid telling others when they disagree with them. They do this to keep things as kosher as possible on a surface level. They go to great lengths to avoid rocking the boat.

If there’s nothing that they’ve ever seemingly done wrong, they can never be ‘called’ on anything. They always need to be in the right.

If you disagree with your partner, let her know. Women are not attracted to a man who lets his values or personal needs slide in order to take care of her. Occasionally, sure. But as a way of being? Yuck. How can she trust you if you don’t respect yourself and your own needs?

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Although I do agree with a certain amount of paternalism in relationships, nice guys are not the best judges of other people’s needs (because they don’t fully understand or acknowledge their own).

Dedicated to your success,

Jordan


Written by Jordan Gray
Originally appeared in Jordan GrayConsulting

Nice Guys Finish Last because they are Manipulative Liars
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Jordan Gray

Sex and relationship coach Jordan Gray helps people remove their emotional blocks and maintain thriving intimate relationships. You can see more of his writing at JordanGrayConsulting.comView Author posts